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When Being Brave Means Disappointing Others

“Do not think that you can be brave with your life and your work and never disappoint anyone. It doesn’t work that way.”- Oprah Winfrey

I am not typically an Oprah Winfrey fan, but I fully believe that you can learn from others, even if you don’t necessarily agree with everything they believe in.

This quote from Oprah Winfrey, which she shared when interviewed by Brene Brown awhile back, really struck a cord with me.

I wouldn’t say that I am necessarily a people pleaser.  I tend to march to the beat of my own drum and am fairly confident in the things that I want to pursue.  I am a classic INFJ (even my husband was shocked at how well this description pegged me) and when my gut feels strongly in a direction, I do not hesitate to walk towards it, even though odds may be against me.

I am a dreamer. Details tend to bore and overwhelm me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t find them important. They just aren’t my strengths. I don’t seek advice a lot, unless I really, really need direction and wise counsel in an area.  I want the best information possible if I have to make a big decision and I find myself stuck.

I am not a people pleaser, but at the same time, I really don’t enjoy disappointing people. I never want to make someone upset about my actions or decisions, even if they are the best for ME and MY Family.

But the reality is, I will disappoint people.  And so will you.

I have to imagine that when David decided to take on Goliath, even after well meaning people told him not to because he was young, not a soldier, and inexperienced, that it took some bravery. (Read 1 Samuel 17 for more insight onto this…plus, the story of David and Goliath is always a good one.  So many great lessons we can glean from this!)

His own brother was angry with David and mistook David’s willingness to go up against the giant as selfish and as a means to gain popularity and ranking, instead of seeing that David loved His Lord and wanted to serve and defend Him and state the truth of who God was and about Israel. David had faith that God was leading this incredible moment. Just a note, you will have family members who will mistake your bravery and direction with motives you didn’t intend.  Do not be afraid, but understand that it will happen.

365 times do the words “Do Not Fear” appear in the bible.  God says that to His followers many times, as a way to encourage them as they navigate the often treacherous and uncertain waters of their lives, or they find themselves in situations they are unsure about.

God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, and love, and of self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7

Lately, due to the many changes going on currently in our life, I have found myself embracing new opportunities and asking new questions about my life, my dreams and what I want to pursue.  I am not necessarily leaving behind current obligations, but being open and praying about how I can best utilize my gifts, talents, dreams and abilities to serve God and serve His people.

I have been writing more, which while does not bring me a paycheck, it has allowed me express my heart and share what God has been teaching me.  If I could never work again in my life, writing and blogging is what I would want to do.

I have also been taking advantage of my love of fashion and shopping and selling clothes on a fun little app called Poshmark.  This is another way to help bring in additional income for my family, and try out something new.  Many people will view it as a waste of time, but I am not really concerned with that.  It is fun for me and I have found myself enjoying the process of finding cute items to list, sell, then wrap beautifully and ship to a customer.  I enjoyed working in retail as a teenager, and I don’t think I would mind working in a retail store or boutique.

I am still working as an online health and fitness coach through Be a Size You.  I have really stopped focusing on challenge groups and have found that most of those who follow me are needing more individual attention and guidance and encouragement.  They are willing to buy a plan, but they aren’t comfortable yet with sharing with an entire group of women they don’t really know (and truthfully, it is hard to really know someone online.)  This allows me to build  a better relationship with the woman I am serving, and really help her be the hero in her own health and fitness story.  This decision goes against the grain of “do more challenge groups” and “sell a bunch of fitness plans and shakes.”  I love our fitness programs and I love our nutritional products, and those who do my 1:1 sessions do need to invest in one or both of those in order to get started, but we will journey through it together and they will have my full attention.

Are you about to embark on something new, and are afraid of disappointing others?  Be brave, sister friend. You are bound to.  But when others express disappointment in you because you are choosing to go down a different career path, goal, adventure, whatever……understand that most of the time, they just can’t understand what you are doing because they aren’t willing to do it themselves.  You aren’t doing it for them.

My WHY is always my family.  Every business decision, every relational decision, every heart decision….my family is the biggest motivator for them.  My dream is to serve them and take care of them. To create something wonderful that I could possibly pass on to them.  To live a life of faith and trusting in God’s goodness and mercy and grace and teaching my children to embrace all that the Lord has for us and for them and for their future.  Others will not understand it or your bravery, but it will be okay.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

 

A Strong Mind and Body is Greater Than a Skinny One

The other day I did a 17 Minute HIIT workout.  For most people, that won’t feel long enough to be considered an effective exercise, but I have been working out long enough to know that if I want a shorter workout, than I have to be willing to push myself a little harder.

And that is exactly what I did.  For those 17 minutes, I lifted heavier, squatted deeper, moved faster, and jumped higher than before.

All because I could. I finally could.

It felt amazing.

On Instagram and Facebook, it is very easy to get caught up in the image side of health and fitness. Everyone wants to six pack abs or to look super fit and toned.  If I am being honest, I want those things too.

But I have to remind myself all the time that a strong body and mind is way more valuable than just a skinny one.

Hear me out, I promise I won’t skinny shame.

When I look at my husband, I want to live long enough so that we become that couple that ditches their college bound kids to go on our own adventures.  I don’t want to be so sick and weak that I can’t travel with him. I want to go all over the world with him at my side.  I don’t want to just sit on the couch.

When I see my kids, I delight in their dreams of either being a Major League Baseball player or being an Olympic Swimmer, and I want to be in the front row as they chase their dreams. I don’t want to be on the couch just watching from afar because I am not healthy or strong enough to be there.

I want to be mentally alert and have conversations that inspire change and hope. I want to serve alongside my sisters and friends in our communities to make it a better place. It is hard to do that if I am house bound and unable to contribute.

I don’t just want to write about change and hope and love on social media. I want to be an ACTIVE part of it.

I don’t want to just spout off opinions.

I want to be a part of the chain reaction of LOVE and GRACE.

Each day that I choose to move my body is not only for aesthetics.

It is so I can contribute and use the gifts and talents that God has given me for Kingdom purpose.

You may see it as superficial.

I see it as vital.  God’s people healthy and living and active in the community to show His love.  His daughters loving their husbands and children and teaching them the way they should go.

Bestowing grace and being aware of those who are in need of hope in a dark filled world.  When I stopped viewing my workouts as simply for physical reasons and started looking at all the ways working out has helped me (including being some much needed therapy!), I have grown to love my time away to sweat. It doesn’t always mean my workouts are winners, but it does mean that I feel a little better, I feel good in the skin I am in, and I am ready to tackle whatever life throws at me.

Share your story. How has working out helped you? What has being stronger mentally and physically empowered you to do or be?

Be a Size You,

Tiffany