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When Being Brave Means Disappointing Others

“Do not think that you can be brave with your life and your work and never disappoint anyone. It doesn’t work that way.”- Oprah Winfrey

I am not typically an Oprah Winfrey fan, but I fully believe that you can learn from others, even if you don’t necessarily agree with everything they believe in.

This quote from Oprah Winfrey, which she shared when interviewed by Brene Brown awhile back, really struck a cord with me.

I wouldn’t say that I am necessarily a people pleaser.  I tend to march to the beat of my own drum and am fairly confident in the things that I want to pursue.  I am a classic INFJ (even my husband was shocked at how well this description pegged me) and when my gut feels strongly in a direction, I do not hesitate to walk towards it, even though odds may be against me.

I am a dreamer. Details tend to bore and overwhelm me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t find them important. They just aren’t my strengths. I don’t seek advice a lot, unless I really, really need direction and wise counsel in an area.  I want the best information possible if I have to make a big decision and I find myself stuck.

I am not a people pleaser, but at the same time, I really don’t enjoy disappointing people. I never want to make someone upset about my actions or decisions, even if they are the best for ME and MY Family.

But the reality is, I will disappoint people.  And so will you.

I have to imagine that when David decided to take on Goliath, even after well meaning people told him not to because he was young, not a soldier, and inexperienced, that it took some bravery. (Read 1 Samuel 17 for more insight onto this…plus, the story of David and Goliath is always a good one.  So many great lessons we can glean from this!)

His own brother was angry with David and mistook David’s willingness to go up against the giant as selfish and as a means to gain popularity and ranking, instead of seeing that David loved His Lord and wanted to serve and defend Him and state the truth of who God was and about Israel. David had faith that God was leading this incredible moment. Just a note, you will have family members who will mistake your bravery and direction with motives you didn’t intend.  Do not be afraid, but understand that it will happen.

365 times do the words “Do Not Fear” appear in the bible.  God says that to His followers many times, as a way to encourage them as they navigate the often treacherous and uncertain waters of their lives, or they find themselves in situations they are unsure about.

God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, and love, and of self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7

Lately, due to the many changes going on currently in our life, I have found myself embracing new opportunities and asking new questions about my life, my dreams and what I want to pursue.  I am not necessarily leaving behind current obligations, but being open and praying about how I can best utilize my gifts, talents, dreams and abilities to serve God and serve His people.

I have been writing more, which while does not bring me a paycheck, it has allowed me express my heart and share what God has been teaching me.  If I could never work again in my life, writing and blogging is what I would want to do.

I have also been taking advantage of my love of fashion and shopping and selling clothes on a fun little app called Poshmark.  This is another way to help bring in additional income for my family, and try out something new.  Many people will view it as a waste of time, but I am not really concerned with that.  It is fun for me and I have found myself enjoying the process of finding cute items to list, sell, then wrap beautifully and ship to a customer.  I enjoyed working in retail as a teenager, and I don’t think I would mind working in a retail store or boutique.

I am still working as an online health and fitness coach through Be a Size You.  I have really stopped focusing on challenge groups and have found that most of those who follow me are needing more individual attention and guidance and encouragement.  They are willing to buy a plan, but they aren’t comfortable yet with sharing with an entire group of women they don’t really know (and truthfully, it is hard to really know someone online.)  This allows me to build  a better relationship with the woman I am serving, and really help her be the hero in her own health and fitness story.  This decision goes against the grain of “do more challenge groups” and “sell a bunch of fitness plans and shakes.”  I love our fitness programs and I love our nutritional products, and those who do my 1:1 sessions do need to invest in one or both of those in order to get started, but we will journey through it together and they will have my full attention.

Are you about to embark on something new, and are afraid of disappointing others?  Be brave, sister friend. You are bound to.  But when others express disappointment in you because you are choosing to go down a different career path, goal, adventure, whatever……understand that most of the time, they just can’t understand what you are doing because they aren’t willing to do it themselves.  You aren’t doing it for them.

My WHY is always my family.  Every business decision, every relational decision, every heart decision….my family is the biggest motivator for them.  My dream is to serve them and take care of them. To create something wonderful that I could possibly pass on to them.  To live a life of faith and trusting in God’s goodness and mercy and grace and teaching my children to embrace all that the Lord has for us and for them and for their future.  Others will not understand it or your bravery, but it will be okay.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

 

She Laughs at the Time to Come

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. Proverbs 31:25

We have a prayer board in our home, and a tiny tin bucket carrying random scraps of paper so that we can easily write out the requests laid on our hearts and for our friends and family.  It is on display where can see it regularly, to remind us to bring those very requests to God.

One particular prayer caught my eye.

It was written by my daughter Madi.

Most of you know that we are in a season of in between.  Waiting. Dan doing random jobs here and there but nothing consistent.  I, myself, am still working at home in order to contribute to providing for our family.  We say we are hopeful, but often times, I think I feel a little desperate and downright impatient.

On this particular day, I was really impatient. And angry. Anxious. Worried. Fretting over what is going to happen next month.  Striving to make things work, no matter how much God continued to provide for us.  I had been carrying this attitude of “if it is meant to be, it is up to me.”

I was living in deep fear and I was acting it out in all of my clawing and striving.

I glanced over at the prayer board and I saw a prayer written in bright green ink. All with misspelled words, but it didn’t matter at the moment.  My 11 year old wrote out a precious request to God for her Daddy.  To help him.  She didn’t care what the answer was. That God would just help him.

I am not usually a crier, but in my old age, that is rapidly changing. I cried because she did it right. She went to the only place she knew how in order to make things a little better.

And that was to her precious Lord.

In all of my stomping and whining and complaining and prideful striving, I didn’t pray nearly as earnest as her sweet prayer on a tiny white sheet of paper.  It was simple, to the point, and honest.  She clothed herself with armor and she activated it with prayer (read Ephesians 6:10-18)

My daughter taught me that while I was doing a good way (working to provide) I was not doing it the best way. I did not always go first to make my requests knows to God.  Or I would be so angry about the wait and so impatient while waiting for answers that I would skip it all together, as if that would show Him.

How gracious is He to remind me that His ways are better. And that he used an 11 year old to remind me? And that it was sweet and precious and gentle?  Sometimes our lessons as we walk it out with Him aren’t that sweet. They can be painful, but this one was not.

I showed a friend of mine Madi’s prayer, and she encouraged me, knowing the season we are in. Her words:

“I can’t help but think of how He used the last tough season to grow you, and I know this one will be the same.”

It was the encouragement I needed that moment to take me back to remember what He, the Lord has done in my life and in the life of my family.  Every season has its peaks and valleys, but He always uses it to grow us closer to Him and mold us to be more like Him. We will always be changed.

Will you clothe yourself in the strength and dignity of the Lord, knowing that He alone is bigger than whatever circumstance, wait, adventure you may find yourself in, and laugh at what is to come.

It may not be what you expected or even requested, but we can have faith that His promises are true and they are sure and we do not have to fear the future, even if it all looks bleak, your bank account is in the negative, no opportunities appearing on the horizon. He is bigger than all of it.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

Self Care is Not Just For Fitness

You have probably heard that word, self care, a whole lot. Usually, it goes along with someone who is inviting you to join them on a journey towards being healthier and being more fit.

That is definitely part of it! A healthy body is part of the whole self care movement, but that is not the only piece! There are so many ways we busy mamas can take care of ourselves so that we can pour into those we love and give ourselves to the ministries and passions we are focused on.

Here are some of my favorite ways to get in a little me time:

*Getting my hair/nails done
*Massage
*Facials
*shopping (Did you see my last blog post?)
*Night out with the girls
*Reading an uplifting book
*Learning a new skill
*Soothing music
*Bath time and using my favorite essential oils/natural skin care products
*Going to the beach or any place that has water
*Hiking or fun outdoor activity with girlfriends
*Study a new topic
*Exercise
*Try a new healthy food restaurant
*Test out a new recipe or bake something yummy
*Blogging/writing
*Being creative and putting together pretty outfits for myself, friends, and family.
*Singing, by myself, out loud in my home.
*Taking a nap! (Do it!)

As you can see, there are so many ways to fill your tank. We give a ton to those around us. If you are a mama, you probably feel like you are constantly running on empty.

But, it is hard to pour into others if you yourself are running on empty. It really is.

Fill your tank, then let that overflow into others.

We are such a busy society! Who the heck told us that in order to be great or worth anything, we had to run ourselves ragged? Who said busier was better?

Who said being a wife and mom was an act of a martyr? Um no.

There are sacrifices, yes. Obviously. But being a wife and a mom isn't a prison sentence. It isn't horrible. Let's knock that off.

Let's take care of ourselves and do things that bring us beauty, joy, pleasure, and then let's bring those very things to those we love.

What are your favorite ways to practice self care?

Be a Size You,

Tiff

When Opportunities Arise, Do We Pray Boldly?

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The morning I took this picture, it was after a pretty exciting night of opportunity for my family.  Let’s just say, if God so wills, it could be a pretty amazing thing for Dan and for our calling into ministry.

I woke up excited, slightly anxious (I hate the waiting and the unknown).  I texted a few soul sisters of mine who I could count on for their prayers and encouragement.

I prayed boldly. I have been praying boldly. When you pray, do you pray bold prayers?

I know so often, we pray generic prayers like

“Lord, if it is your will, then let it be done.”

Which is true. We should be praying in all things for it to be God’s will. That it is because what we are praying for is for Kingdom glory and not for our own. But get specific. It is okay to ask for something specifically.

When Dan decided to leave the Ranch, and he had not job in sight at the time, we prayed boldly together for the opportunity to get back into the local church. That is where our heart was and that is where we wanted to be.  I have always believed that God has specifically called Dan to local church ministry.  He has had his fair share of tossing around other career ideas, but you can’t burn out the flame of God’s call on your life.

Ministry is Dan’s calling.  It won’t die out until God says it is time to be done.

During that time, while in my In Laws home, I created a prayer door.  I would use post it notes and place my prayers on that door. I prayed for my kids while they attended school. For our transition into ministry. For provision.  I prayed for Dan’s call into ministry.

I prayed for my team.

When Dan got the job at Cornerstone Church, I prayed for a place for us to live. I was even specific about what we would love to live in.  I prayed for the education choice I was going to have to make for my kids.

I didn’t get everything I wanted. But I got everything I needed.

That is what prayer does.  It is our way of communicating with our Heavenly Father who sees what we need and even sees what we want.  We get to lay it all out in front of Him. And in His goodness, like a loving daddy who desires to give good gifts to his children, that is what our Heavenly Father does. We don’t get everything we want, but we get everything we need.

I see too often women who love Jesus afraid to pray bold prayers because they think that if they do, then it won’t happen. No, sweet sister. Pray your bold prayers! Get on your knees before Him and share those heartfelt desires of yours. What are those needs? What are your dreams?

Do you get excited about the opportunities that come your way? Do you pray boldly for them? Can I challenge you to do that?

Let’s get excited about the possibilities God places in front us to serve His people. Love God. Love His people.  Whether they are job opportunities, ministry opportunities, or just the chance coffee date with a new gal pal, get excited about it.

You may not get everything you want. But you will get everything you need.

I am constantly encouraged when I read in Matthew 21:13

“And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”

I am also encouraged to pray boldly when in Psalm 37:4 calls us to:

“Delight yourselves in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”

Delight in my heavenly Father. When I spend time kneeling before Him and pouring out my heart to Him and digging into His precious Word so that I can be more and more like Him, the more my prayers are molded to reflect His heart. I don’t spend time with Him or delight in Him because I want to get what I want.

I delight in Him because I know, like with any good father, that I may not get everything I want.

But I will get everything I need.

And He is faithful always with what we present before Him.

Pray boldly,

Tiffany

Beauty in the Weeds

When my son was a toddler, he would constantly pluck these yellow “flowers” and give them to me. He thought they were pretty.

He wanted to bless his momma with them. 

They would often come to me crumbled in his chubby hands, but I cherished them regardless.

Because even though most considered them to weeds and most of the time we wouldn’t pay much attention to them, my son did. He noticed them. He stopped to pick them for me and give them to the person he loved. They were pretty to him, even though they may be ugly to the rest of us.

Our family has been through several seasons of wading through the weeds. Whether it be through job transition, parenting struggles, marriage struggles, it is what it is. Being down in the weeds is hard and it can be difficult to find beauty during that time.

I remember one point when Dan had lost his job. We had no income to speak of coming in, except for my very small business which wasn’t making enough to cover rent or really anything else, and constantly stressed about how we would pay the bills and survive. What about our kids? How would we feed them? How do we nurture them when our world felt like it was crumbling all around us.

Then came the “flowers.” My son’s flowers. During that time when he would pick those little yellow buds from overgrown grass, it was at the time when Dan and I were uncertain if the lights would stay on. If we would lose our apartment. If we would have to move in with family (we did, eventually), if Dan would find another job (he did, praise God!). If our marriage would survive (obviously, we are going on almost 13 years of marriage!)

God opened my eyes to see that beauty and His hope is found everywhere. In all of my worry and anxiety and fear, I forgot to cling to hope. I was afraid we wouldn’t be provided for. And yet we were. He provides for us in our need, not necessarily our wants. We had to sacrifice, to be sure. We had to say goodbye to the things we had grown accustomed to. We couldn’t do as many fun things as we had liked or wished. 

But He still provided. And we are still together as a family. We still had each other. God mended our brokenness and brought us closer together so that while our time was hard, we still had our family. We still had love. And that made us fight harder to see beauty in the weeds.

I don’t know where you are today. Struggle seems to be all around my friends lately. I am lifting you up today. 

Can I encourage you, as you wander through overgrown fields of worry, anxiety, fear, uncertainty and more, that you look for beauty. You look for hope. And remember that the God of the universe cares for you? 

For even the flowers are cared for. They have no need to worry about what the day will bring or how to dress. God has taken care of it. 

And He, more so, will take care of you. Is that easier said than done? Sure. But believe anyway. 

“And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?” Matthew 6:28-30

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

Love Your Family


One of the main ingredients in a successful life is how you treat your family.

Are you serving them? Or are you focused on yourself?

No matter what our vocation may be, if we are more popular or loved by where we work than at home, it will mean nothing.

Success will mean nothing.

In the bible, it talks about the Proverbs 31 woman who is praised by her husband and her children. They acknowledge who she is and what she has done and how “excellent a woman she is” because of how she served those in her home.

Every decision she made was for the good of her husband and her family.

Ladies. Wives. Friends. Shouldn’t that be our focus as well?

It is okay to have a career and be passionate about something other than what to make for dinner each night. It is okay to use our gifts and skills and abilities for the kingdom and for a vocation.

What is not okay is choosing to push our family to the side as if they are in the way of our achievements or goals. No. You have it twisted.

You push them aside, your achievements will mean nothing. Sure, you will look great to everyone else, but your family will know the truth.

If you want real success, define it with your family in mind. Include them in the process. I am constantly blabbing Dan’s ear off about my goals. I include him because I love him and this is all for him. I want to help him. 

Fight for your family! Too many of us are in it for ourselves. Let’s be different. 

Let’s SERVE our families (there is that dirty word, ladies) and allow everything we do be because we want to honor God in our marriages, honor our husbands and let them lead, and raise our sons and daughters to fight for family. 

Be a Size You,

Tiff 

Be a Team and Build Friendships


As we speak, this week I am getting ready to head to Beachbody’s Annual Conference, Coach Summit, to hang out with 23,000 other coaches in Nashville, TN! 

It is going to be an incredible week of fitness, inspiration, and training. I am really excited to glean from other leaders in the company and learn how to be a better leader for my team, and to better help all of you reach your health and fitness goals. Make sure you are following me on social media so you can see all the Live updates. I will be posting a lot! 😜

My favorite aspect of this business is that not only do I get to build a team and make a living helping and serving others, I also get to do this with friends, as well as make new friends in the process. Many of the people within Team Be a Size You have become connected thanks to social media. We met through IG, FB, Snapchat, blogs, emails, and even online bootcamps. We have prayed for one another and encouraged one another to use the gifts God has created us with in order to serve others. Isn’t that really what a team of people do in a business together? Gather their individual strengths in order to help meet a need in others. We have something that has blessed our lives, and we want to share that blessing with other people. And we do that together.

We are not fitness experts. We don’t come into this thinking Beachbody is the only way. 

But it is a way. It is a good way. And it can be a sustainable way for us to live healthy lives, and should we choose, stay at home and bring in additional income to help our families. We work hard, but we have fun too.

There will be training and tips and resources for you, so that while you may decide to build a business for yourself, you won’t be by yourself. You will have all of us rooting you on and helping you along the way. 


If you are interested in working with like-minded people who share your faith and desire to serve others and you are excited about health and fitness, fill out this application and let’s chat to see if Team Be a Size You would be a good fit for you! 

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

Your Commitment Matters

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People have a hard time wanting to commit.  Whether that be in a dating relationship, ministry, exercise program, playdate, you name it.  People are afraid of commitment!

It is like they fear that if they commit, they will be stuck doing it forever.  But friends, that is far from the case!

Some commitments are a long time and some are simply for a season. But your YES matters. Why?

Your credibility is at stake.  If you are someone who finds yourself saying yes to everyone, but you don’t follow through, or you flake out after things get tough, then I can guarantee that people will be leery of approaching you with other commitments.

I am always brought to this verse when I pray about commitments in my life that I am being asked to consider:

“Let what you say be simply ‘yes’ or ‘no’, anything more than this comes from evil.” Matthew 5:37

Here is why this verse always gives me pause when it comes to decision making.

God is not fickle. He does not ask us to do things for His Kingdom, and then turns around and says never mind when things get difficult. He doesn’t tease us. He doesn’t make promises He cannot keep.

We are created in His image. For those of us who have accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior, we reflect Him.  We rely on the Holy Spirit (that was promised to us at conversion) to guide us and enable us to do His will. That means, if we say yes to something (so long as it is not illegal, evil, or sinful), don’t you think the Holy Spirit can empower us to finish through with our yes?

Sometimes, saying yes will be uncomfortable. Sometimes, we are not going to LOVE what we are doing.  It can be hard.  Most people don’t like hard. We like easy. We like little risk. We don’t want to sacrifice our time, treasures, or talents for the good of others if it doesn’t automatically bless us or make us look good!  (That sounds so harsh, but it is a reality! I have been in ministry for nearly 13 years.  The stories I could share, but won’t!)

That doesn’t mean we say yes to everything that comes our way. Some opportunities, no matter how good they may be, just don’t fit either because of our current season or interests. Say yes to those you can honestly commit to and with a joyful heart, even if it means someone else is blessed!

And when you say yes, or no, stand by it.  Don’t go back and forth. Remember, God was not and is not fickle. We are more like Him when we do this because then we are trustworthy. Just as God is trustworthy.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

 

 

 

Team Iron Leadership Retreat

*Warning. Lots of pictures!*

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A couple of weeks ago, I had the pleasure of attending a Leadership Retreat in Black Mountain, NC to hangout and fellowship with other health and fitness leaders.

I was really anxious about this trip. Not because I didn’t want to go. I really did. I worked extremely hard to earn an invite to attend this weekend. But I am a momma of young kids and a hubby who is extremely busy with ministry. It was hard for me to let go of the grip of anxiety I felt when it came to leaving my family behind to do something that would be beneficial for me and for my team.

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But I am so glad I went. Relationships. Deep friendships with other women who will have your back have been an ongoing theme in my life lately. Community has been something that I did not think I needed for a long time, and God is showing me that I was wrong in that thinking.  Community helps you get back up when you have been knocked down by the rest of the world or by your own failures.

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We got to workout together early in the morning, then grab a cup of coffee or Shakeo and gather together on couch to dig into God’s word.  We prayed together about how we can be others focused for God’s Kingdom while working our businesses and giving Him the glory.

We spent time with each other sharing ideas on how to be better leaders for those who are on our teams.  How to make them better.  How to continuously grow ourselves so that we don’t grow stale and that we continue to reach those who need hope. Need encouragement. Need a little help.

We are in an industry that is so often inward focused.  How toned can my arms get? How do I get six pack abs? How many selfies can I take in order to share my “health and fitness journey” and get a ton of likes each day.

This past weekend reminded me that each of us is a part of a very special movement in our businesses. While we work on helping others live healthier lives, we must also pursue their hearts and build relationships with them and love them deeply.

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This is a ministry for us. For Be a Size You, which is my heart, it is more than just a health and fitness business. It is a ministry to really dig deep into the heart of each woman. That she loves the body God created her to have. That she takes care of it. And that she utilizes the gifts and talents He has bestowed towards her in order to give Him the glory and to impact His Kingdom for good.

We were spoiled with good food and good conversation. I left that retreat ready to get back to work. I left recharged and I knew why I was feeling so anxious about the trip. The enemy did not want me to go. But God did. He knew that I needed this. That I needed to be around all of these women. Each girl with her own set of gifts and abilities. Each person I was able to learn from.

I was ready to get back home to my hubby and my babies. I was ready to help more people and do this ministry well.

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Have you ever considered health and fitness as a ministry? Would you like to be around like minded women who can help you with your own health and fitness journey?  I would love nothing more than to connect with you and share about this incredible opportunity.  It has blessed me in more ways than I ever thought possible. Just fill out this form and I will get back to you right away!

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

 

Are You Called or Capable?

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Quote from “Let it Go”

How often do we say no to something because we don’t truly feel we are capable of doing the task, even though we feel we may be called to do it?

I bet a lot of us would be raising our hands. Capability is the big elephant in the room when it comes to fulfilling God’s will for our lives.  I would wager that some of the things we feel God is calling us to is bigger than we pictured or conjured up in our dreams, so when it falls before us, we instantly tell ourselves and everyone around us, “I am not capable.”

But if we are called, and it is God doing the calling, not just your neighbor or pushy friend, then shouldn’t our answer be YES, regardless of our capabilities? Doesn’t God equip those He has called according to His purposes?

My husband has been a pastor for the last 13 years.  He does not have a masters degree in Theology (although that is on his to do list. We both agree he should pursue one). He struggled with a learning disability for most of his educational career. He would be the first to tell you that he does not “feel” capable to do the job of shepherding God’s children and sharing God’s word most of the time. But he knows that he has been given the capabilities to do this because God called him to minister to the local church.  It is the one thing that when Dan goes to sleep at night, and when he wakes up, he is sure of what he is to do.  It is his calling. Anything else he would do would simply be done because he could, but not because he was called.  That probably doesn’t make any sense, but as I watch my man doing what he loves, and knowing that God provided all of this for us, it makes me giddy and I could just cry! And I don’t cry often!

 

Then there is the flipside. We will say yes to things simply because we know we can do them. That is not necessarily a bad thing, but often times we say yes all the time to those things! And then we wonder why we are stretched thin, exhausted, frustrated, impatient, and lack joy. Friends, just because we are “capable” of doing something does not mean we should do it. Perhaps, we should set aside the control freak in us, and allow the person who is called to complete that task you are capable of doing, do it.  It will relieve you of excess pressure and you will be able to breathe!

When it comes to “callings”, don’t stress out too much about what that will look like. God has given each of us gifts and talents that were meant to be used for His glory and to serve His kingdom purposes. Use them. Pray over them and ask God how He would want you to use those gifts.  And don’t say yes to everything just because you can do it. Ask yourself if this very thing that is requested of you is something God is moving you to do, or are you wanting to do it simply because you can. You can do anything, but you cannot do everything.

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10 ESV

“For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a Spirit of power.” 2 Timothy 1:7

What do you feel you are called to do today, but you are not saying yes because you don’t feel capable? Or, what have you said yes to that you really should not be doing?

Be a Size You,

Tiff