"She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:12
We have such a vague idea of what a good wife looks like. According to the media, internet and a zillion other sources we could do our research, a good wife is loving, honest, cleans the house, cooks for her husband, loves the children and doesn't yell at them (there goes about 85% of us..ha!).
But I believe God's word gives us a better view of what a good wife looks like.
Because I desperately want to be God's beautiful wife.
I loved this concept from Elizabeth George's book Beautiful in God's eyes: that "God's beautiful wife is intent on lavishing good, every possible good on her husband. She lives to love him and she does him good at every opportunity."
But where does it come from? How does a woman, in a selfish, self absorbed world, lavish such goodness on the man she is called to be one with for the rest of her life. How does she offer goodness and care to him when sometimes he flat out annoys her!
Colossians 3:23 "Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men."
If we look at the Fruit of the Spirit, one of the characteristics is "Goodness". When we remain in Christ, continue to walk in obedience with Him and are in His word daily so that we may know Him better and we allow the Holy Spirit to lead us, then the Fruit of the (Holy) Spirit is what will spring forth.
Ladies, we must be walking in obedience to God. If we truly want to be wellsprings of life to our husbands, remaining in Christ is so essential. Elizabeth George says it best when she explains that a wife does not show goodness to her husband because she has to, but "because she desires to obey Her Heavenly Lord as well as her earthly Lord."
That to me is powerful.
I want to obey God. So by obeying Him, I will be good to my husband. I will obey my husband because God commands me to in Ephesians 5:22.
I will be my husband's biggest cheerleader, support and backbone. While he is out slaying dragons for our little family so that we can have a roof over our head and food to eat, I will root for him. Pray for him. Provide a safe and quiet home for him. I will not withhold it just because he makes me angry and disappoints me.
When two sinful people are joined together, disappointment is inevitable!
Ladies, we are the one person who can truly be there for our man. When he is out in the world trying to take care of us, there will be folks who will try to tear him down, rip him to shreds, emasculate him and say he is not worth anything. Will you be the one person in his life that he knows has his back?
Because you may be the only person.
Nothing is more painful than seeing a man who is beaten up and defeated. Will you put your big girl panties on when times are tough and encourage him. Give him everything he needs to succeed? Sacrifice your own wants at the time to make sure he can do what God calls him to do? This isn't easy. Trust me, I know this! We aren't always going to want to do good to those who sometimes hurt us. But if we are living by the Holy Spirit and we desire to obey God….then we will.
"The wisest of women builds her house,
But folly with her own hands tears it down."