Category Archives: Life

Be a size YOU.

This post has been sitting in my heart, nearly typed out as I have been battling with the balance of sharing with all of you the advantages of living a healthy lifestyle and yet living in accordance with what I believe in God’s word.

I do not want anyone to see me as a woman who pressures other women to be skinny girls.  That we should only focus on weight loss and exercise.

No. I want to focus on the whole woman. The woman who is healthy physically, emotionally, spiritually.

I don’t want you to be a size two. I want you to be a size YOU.

What does that mean?

I believe that true beauty comes from the inside out.  A healthy person is not someone who is necessarily able to fit into smaller clothes.  If that person embraces fear, insecurities, heartache, instability, lack of faith etc….then they are not healthy completely.  When you find yourself rotting on the inside, it is hard to appreciate the health you appear to “have” from the outside.

Being a size YOU means that you are healthy emotionally.  You are healthy physically and spiritually.  You take care of yourself knowing that you do it because there are things in your life that must be done.  You have a young family, a husband, ministry, jobs, responsibilities that should you fall incredibly ill, those very responsibilities would suffer.

This is not about the scale, although most of us do weigh ourselves from time to time.

It is about being strong inside and out to do all that God has asked of you!  It is so important that we do good works. That we are grateful for the one body that God has specifically designed us to have.  To treat it as a temple acceptable for worship and capable of doing good towards others and furthering His cause.

So friends don’t get caught up on the scale.  Don’t believe for a second the person who tells you that a size 2 is what you need to be.

Cosmopolitan did not create you.

God did.

Tiff~

1 Timothy 2:9-10; Romans 12:1

 

Keep Silent or Speak Up?

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When you spend a great deal of time using Social Media to interact with friends, family and strangers you will often read or see things that you don’t necessarily agree with.

Or they make you downright angry, defensive.

Maybe those comments are directed right at you.

How do you respond?

In the past, it was so easy for me to say my piece. To attack if I felt “led to correct” an individual for their opinion.

But I am learning that the best thing I can do is keep silent. Even if I don’t agree.  Does that mean I don’t stand by my convictions? Quite the contrary.  I have mine and some of the people I follow online have theirs…and we are very different in our beliefs!

I have learned after making quite a few mistakes and opening my mouth a tad too often, that I really don’t have to speak up every time.

I have learned the art and beauty of remaining silent.  To not get involved in the drama.

So often it is hard to interpret the true meaning behind someone’s words online. You can’t always tell if they were angry, sad, happy, or sarcastic. Those emotions don’t translate very well in written form.  If I feel that it is something that needs to be addressed, I stop, pray and really think about what I want to say or if I should say anything.

Often times I will begin writing a response and I feel a tiny nudge that says “stop”.

I also believe that whatever you say in public, good or bad, sticks with you.  So if you are constantly airing your opinions online, you become a very noisy gong and many will refuse to even listen to you after a certain point.

So know when to keep silent and when to speak up.  Know that it is often better to let those who choose to be negative….be negative. Ignore them and choose to align yourself with things that are positive, uplifting, will encourage and not tear down.

Blessings,

Tiff~

You Are Not One Dimensional

Yesterday I was reading one of my favorite fashion blogs titled “Why Are Mormons So Cool?” I appreciated her answers as to why she is able to blog about fashion and creativity and her home life.  Her faith drives her and her church teaches a principle that many of us who are Christian will find familiar: they are taught to “engage ourselves in ways that enlarge our capacity for happiness {and seek out those things that are “virtuous and lovely”}”.

The latter half of this quote sounds familiar doesn’t it?

Philippians 4:8 “Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable-if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise-dwell on these things”.

While this blogger and I are of a differing faith, I completely understand her perspective.

Sometimes I get the sense from other Christians that if you talk about things other than the Bible, Jesus, The Holy Spirit, the local church it is ungodly and you are putting your hope and trust in other things. While there is no doubt that there are those who worship their passions and lusts of money, fashion etc., I feel that it is okay to talk about what excites you.

What do you love to do? Do you sing? Dance? Scrapbook?

Being a pastor’s wife I often feel the pressure to just talk about the local church. And I love talking about it. Believe me. Ministry is something I love.

But honestly I also love health and fitness..so much I decided recently to start my own business helping others reach their own health and fitness goals.

I enjoy cute clothes. You have seen my previous posts about my favorite shops.

I love singing and acting. I watch Pageants on TV.

I find these these things to be pleasurable and gifts from God. Singing and acting is something I get to use for ministry. The same with encouraging others to take care of themselves.

Shopping for cute clothes means I get to look good for the man I promised to be faithful to until “death we do part”.

Find what you love, thank God for it, find the balance in enjoying it and not worshiping it….and then go. Share with others. Love on them. Be visible evidence of God’s love.

Instead of focusing and talking so much on what Christians are doing wrong (and by doing that pushing others who are searching for truth away in the process) be consistent in your character and your content. Believe me, people will want to know where you find your joy.

You are not one dimensional, but a beautiful, intricate design by our Creator.

Tiff~

Scarlet Fever Anyone?

This weekend, I spent my time cuddling with this little guy:

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We had to take him to Urgent Care on Friday because he wasn't eating and was very lethargic. Which by the way is very unlike my son.

Seriously, the child is like a human hurricane tearing through my house every day.

So to see him be so, well, clingy and sad was very hard for this momma to see.

Turns out he had scarlet fever and Pharyngitis (which is basically a fancy term for a throat infection). So they gave him antibiotics.

And we spent the entire weekend cuddling.

Today  he was (practically) back to normal and now Madi and I are not feeling well.

Ahhhh life sure is fun huh?  

Let the craziness begin!  

Tiff~

Back When I Was a Kid

Our parents dressed us kind of funny.

Ha! Just kidding.

But seriously, check out our awesome outfits in this old photo.  

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 Me (center), Ashley (left), Sheena (rt). Yes our hats are awesome.

This old photo is from my friend Danielle, who moved to Colorado when I was in fifth(?) grade. 

Thank God for Facebook =).

Anyway, she tagged me and my sisters and a few others and it brought back a flood of memories.

I was the luckiest kid alive growing up. 

I grew up on a street that  had kids my own age to play barbies, ride bikes and go swimming with. Our parents all knew each other and we got to spend the night at each other's homes.  From 8am to 6pm we were outside playing. Of course we stopped for lunch (sometimes!) but the reality was that we didn't want to be cooped up indoors.

We wanted to be where the action was. To be grounded from playing outside meant death to us.

Not so anymore.

It makes me sad that I rarely see kids playing outside. Even the parks seem empty. I know things are not the same. It appears crimes against children only seem to be increasing. Video games and indoor activities are high on the priority list of kids and families are busier and streets are becoming less family friendly. *sigh*

I want my babies to experience the kind of childhood I had growing up. I am feeling a sort of nostalgic longing for the days of old.

What was your childhood like? 

Tiff~

Back When I Was a Kid

Our parents dressed us kind of funny.

Ha! Just kidding.

But seriously, check out our awesome outfits in this old photo.  

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 Me (center), Ashley (left), Sheena (rt). Yes our hats are awesome.

This old photo is from my friend Danielle, who moved to Colorado when I was in fifth(?) grade. 

Thank God for Facebook =).

Anyway, she tagged me and my sisters and a few others and it brought back a flood of memories.

I was the luckiest kid alive growing up. 

I grew up on a street that  had kids my own age to play barbies, ride bikes and go swimming with. Our parents all knew each other and we got to spend the night at each other's homes.  From 8am to 6pm we were outside playing. Of course we stopped for lunch (sometimes!) but the reality was that we didn't want to be cooped up indoors.

We wanted to be where the action was. To be grounded from playing outside meant death to us.

Not so anymore.

It makes me sad that I rarely see kids playing outside. Even the parks seem empty. I know things are not the same. It appears crimes against children only seem to be increasing. Video games and indoor activities are high on the priority list of kids and families are busier and streets are becoming less family friendly. *sigh*

I want my babies to experience the kind of childhood I had growing up. I am feeling a sort of nostalgic longing for the days of old.

What was your childhood like? 

Tiff~

Back To Reality….Sort Of.

Our vacation in Newport Dunes was amazing and just what we needed.

The ocean,  barbeques, family time and relaxation helped all of us, especially me and Dan, to refocus on what is really important in our lives.

We minister to those who come to Illuminate every Sunday night. Sharing hope and grace to a room full of hurting individuals. 

But our first ministry is to our family. Specifically, to each other and to two little munchkins that we just adore.

So while, yes, we are back to "life as usual"…..it won't really be life as usual ;). We will still have ministry/church stuff, a house to clean, kids to wash, laundry to fold, bills to pay.

But life will be different. That is our goal.

Because come on, how can you resist these cute kids!

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We sure can't!

Hope you are all having a wonderful July with all of your loved ones.

Blessings,

Tiff~

The Case of the Mondays

Let me just paint a lovely picture for you.

Both children woke up crying hysterically. At 6:00 A.M.

Sean is crying because he just likes to up way too dang early and gets a tad upset if you wait too long to get him. You know, because it is not like anyone is sleeping or anything.

Madi was upset because her daddy, who had to leave really early this morning for work, forgot to kiss her goodbye. You know, because while she was sawing logs she could totally tell if Daddy kissed her or not.  

And the whining and crying has not stopped people! Please save me.  

And I am on my 6th cup of coffee….thank you new coffee machine. 

So, How is your Monday so far ;).

Tiff~

For The Love of Blogging

I just haven't felt like posting my thoughts on here lately.

Mostly, I have missed the intimacy of a private journal. Where my deepest thoughts are hidden and my real feelings and emotions can come forth without the fear of a backlash or truckload of negative comments.  

There have been so many things that I have wanted to blog about, but I just decided not to.  I want a private journal again. And I think I will start one.  

This may be a blog that turns into a place I turn to a couple of times a week.  Sharing family thoughts and life details.  

And if none of you read this that is okay.  I no longer really care how many people read my blog.  I don't check my reader stats.  I haven't really kept up with it anyway.  

This is just  the reality of my heart right now. I love blogging, but at the same time I don't.  

A love/hate relationship at best.  

*What are your thoughts toward blogging?  Do you love/hate it too?

Tiff~

Mother’s Day

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My Mother's Day was amazing.  In fact, I had one of the best weekends.  I got to spend Friday with my MIL for lunch at Lucille's BBQ.

Saturday I spent time with my Mom, sister, Aunt and Grandma for an awesome BBQ.  The kids got to hang out with their great grandparents which I absolutely love. And Madi and Sean love Great Grandma and Grandpa.  

Saturday evening when I came home, Dan spoiled me rotten with my favorite flowers.  Oh and tons of giftcards to make me deliriously happy in a mall. 

He knows his wife well. *wink*

How was your Mother's Day?  

Blessings,

Tiff~