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Why You Don’t Need More Inspiration or Motivation


Inspiration is everywhere. Have you noticed that? Whether we are being inspired to create a beautiful home, or new delicious recipes that will wow your family and friends, or outfit inspirations, we are literally inundated with inspiration and ideas that are meant to move us to action.

Pinterest is a dreamers haven. But I have also found it is the place where dreams go to die.

Why? 

Because being inspired is not the same as action.  Honestly, it is easy to be inspired. Dare I say, it is even easy to be motivated.

Action, on the other hand, is harder. Because that means you have to make a decision to move or do something based on what you have seen.

If what you saw inspired you enough to move, and you actually took action, then fantastic! It worked!!!

But, if you are constantly being inspired but nothing happens….then you don’t need anymore inspiration. 

You need an action plan. You need to move.

People like to chat about being inspired. But being inspired costs you nothing. Literally. It is free. I post on social media every day my workouts, or about something I have read that encouraged me, in order to inspire and encourage all of you. And it is all free for you. I don’t charge for my inspiration. I give that away because I know it can benefit the heart of the reader.

But, if you come to me wanting my help to take action, I will require YOU to put some skin in the game. That means, you will have to invest your time and dollars in order for you to reach your desired goal. Action requires skin in the game. It does not require more motivation or inspiration. Those help to keep momentum. Heck, we all love an “Atta Girl!” Now and then! No shame in that!

But if you aren’t willing to move and put some skin on, then you are wanting to achieve anything. 

Are you ready for this? I say this in love. Completely. Because I love you.

You just want to be inspired. You aren’t looking to change. You don’t want to change, yet. You are not there yet. 

“But why do I have to spend so much money to get healthy/build my business/get training/etc.

Because. If you put into it, it will matter more to you. You will care more. It will hurt more because it cost you something. My journey was not free. It still isn’t. I invest regularly into my health, my relationships, my home, my business, because it matters to me! I have skin in this. It matters.

I know that part is painful. We don’t like to give any part of ourselves if we aren’t sure if it will work out. There are no guarantees, really.

But what if. Just what if you decided to take that inspiration, invest in it, and be surprised by the outcome. 

You may discover it was worth it.

Be a Size You,
Tiffany 

P.S. If you are ready to take charge of your health, and put some skin in the game, I always offer one on one support. Apply here so I can help you reach your health and fitness goals. 

Newport Dunes Getaway

This last week, the hubby and I took advantage of the kids being with Gramie and Papa for camp and headed off to Newport Dunes!


Newport Dunes is this awesome resort where you can rent bungalows or hook up your trailer for a relaxing and fun vacation by the bay. It is absolutely beautiful and it is truly one of our favorite places to go for Vacation. It also has one of the best 4th of July Fireworks shows I have ever seen, so it is definitely a place you want to visit!

You can paddleboard, swim, kayak, visit local beaches (Newport Beach is literally 5 minutes) and also check out some amazing local eateries.

Fashion Island is a spot we love to visit as well when we are in a shopping mood. Well, honestly I am always in a shopping mood. Dan….not so much! There are a ton of amazing stores and restaurants in this mall. More high end than most malls, but we love it! And they have an Anthropologie. Yaaaassss! 


Dan and I have spent most of our time simply relaxing, eating, and laying out at the Beach. I did want to share a couple of eateries that we discovered that we loved and thought you would too!


Dory Deli in Newport Beach. We just happened upon this spot because we were really hungry, but we wanted something different than just burgers and fries, or tacos. Dan suggested it because he thought the name was funny. So glad we ate here! I got the Kale Caesar and Dan got the Ruben Sandwich. We also split a bowl of their Clam Chowder and OH MY GOSH. So good! I don’t know how old they are, but I did see that they will have a full bar soon. They had quite a bit of selection when it comes to salads, sandwiches, sides, even coffee and they have brunch on the weekends. I loved my salad. I think next time I will be daring and try their Seared Ahi Salad. Because it sounds so good! 

R+D Kitchen at Fashion Island. Dan had eaten here before with a friend quite a few years ago and he said all he could remember was the burger. He said it was that good. So I wanted to eat there.

Y’all, the menu is not very big. And it is a bit pricey. But worth it! He got the Cheeseburger and a side of fries for us to split (because always say yes to fries) and I grabbed the Chicken Thai Noodle salad (I think that is what it was called.) Huge winner. 

I mean, what? Doesn’t that look amazing? It was so good you guys! There were noodles, bits of Mango, carrots, chicken, cilantro, jicama, sesame….and the dressing was this light dressing that tasted peanutty, but it wasn’t heavy. It was amazing. Our waiter recommended it and I jumped all over it. So delicious! 

I am serious. If I could get a job where they could send me to restaurants to eat and share my thoughts, yaaassss. Sign me up.

Dan and I basically kept it chill. It was Shaun Week for my workouts this week, so I made use of Newport Dunes fitness room. Side note to Newport Dunes: you need more weights folks. Eight pounds and ten pounds are not gonna cut it. I know you have mostly runners visiting, but yeah….let’s do better for the fitness room. 


And a whole lot of beach time.


We leave tomorrow and I am sad to go, but overall, it has been amazing and much needed. So grateful. 

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

Hope In Front Of Me

Lately, I have been having heart breaking conversations with friends and those I have connected with via social media. 

Loss, marriage struggles, job loss, financial struggle, parenting, and so much more.

It seems walking out our faith takes a lot out of us. It is hard some days.

And for a lot of us, it may feel like those days are never going to come to an end.

Music has always been an encourager in my life. I know I have mentioned before, but when a song comes on with just the right words that match what my heart is feeling, it is like I am strengthened or moved to action. It is like God allows powerful words into my life that will remind me of the hope I have.

We were cleaning the house today, and the song by Danny Gokey “Hope In Front of Me” came on.
I was touched by these words:

There’s hope in front of me

There’s a light, I still see it

There’s a hand still holding me

Even when I don’t believe it

I might be down but I’m not dead

There’s brighter days still up ahead

Even after all I’ve seen

There’s hope in front me

Danny Gokey “Hope In Front of Me” 2014

You might be down, but girlfriend…you are not dead!

The same God who created the heavens and earth sees you and loves you.

The same God who can raise the dead to life can raise you from whatever valley you find yourself in. As painful as it is and hurt as you may be feeling right, God absolutely 100% hears your cries for help. It may not come in the time you wish, but He has not left you alone. 

I remember those long nights when my heart was so broken, I was so unsure of what tomorrow would bring. I wasn’t sure I could take much more. But sister, that is the point. We cannot rely on our own strength in hard times. It is in His strength and power that we are able to overcome. He did not call us to be wonder women. He called us to be His. 

And when we allow our brokenness and pain to be laid bare at Him who can heal, you see the glory of who He is and just what He is capable of doing in the lives and hearts of His precious daughters. 

So you are not dead. There is hope for those of us in Christ.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

Feed Your Mind

I am a big believer that leaders are readers.  I believe that if you are looking to grow in any area, reading and studying are the way to go.

Growing up, I always considered myself an independent learner.  I fared much better doing research projects than group projects or sitting in a classroom because more often than not, it was on subjects that I was not interested in.

I still have not used chemistry. Well, except for baking because exact measurements matter, but other than that….nope!

But I will spare you my thoughts on education and we will get to the part I am most passionate about: Feeding your mind.

I shared on Facebook my current favorite books that I think y’all should grab and dive into.  Most of these are personal development/nutrition/leadership/ministry related.  If that is not your thing, no worries, I will try to update this week even more books that I have read and love.

Podcasts are incredible resources too. That will get updated on my blog as well.

Some included links for the books mentioned in the video:

Discipline: The Glad Surrender

Sacred Priviledge by Kay Warren

Nothing to Prove by Jennie Allen

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth

Practical Paleo by Diane Sanfilippo

I will try to update even more resources on books, podcasts, resources and more so you all can have more resources as you work on Being a Size You.

 

So thankful for each of you! Would love to hear what you are reading and learning right now!

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

 

 

 

Are You Ready for Summer?

Can you believe it is June already? I can’t. It really does feel like 2017 is just flying by.

My kids get out of school really soon, and we are all so ready to head to the beach and enjoy lazy summer days.

But, I am also ready to challenge myself even more with my health and fitness. I have been loving my 21 Day fitness program so far and I am already starting to see results from just 7 12 days in.  That is huge!!!! I will be taking photos soon, so stay tuned so you can see my progress.  It has inspired me and I think it will inspire a lot of you!

Speaking of inspire, how are you feeling right now about summer? Are you inspired and feel like you have reached your summer goals?  Or are you still hoping for something to change.

Can I challenge you?

Watch this!

 

I am only taking 10 women. And they must be serious and ready to commit to getting results.

If you that describes you, apply here: Be a Size You Community

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

Protein Energy Bites

 

Did someone say protein?

I hate buying protein bars. Personally, I think they are overpriced and really not that good. If I can make them myself, I will.

One reason why I am thankful for Shakeology is for the fact that it is complete nutrition in a shake, and a great powder to use for “baking”……only this recipe is a no bake.

No raw eggs. No weird ingredients, just goodness.

This is a standard recipe that many of us coaches have used, but you can easily switch it up and make different versions of these protein bites to please your palate.

My kids love these and while they can last a week, they won’t.

You will need to practice serious self control. Ha!

Protein energy bites

3 scoops/packets of Vanilla Shakeology or Vegan Shakeology 

1/2 cup raw honey

1/2 cup unsweetened shredded coconut

1/2 cup organic almond butter (or nut butter of choice)

1/2 cup semi-sweet or dark chocolate chips

Place all ingredients into a mixing bowl and mix together well. Roll dough into small balls (should make roughly around 12 balls) and let sit in the freezer for 10-15 minutes to set.

Then store in a container for up to a week. 

Enjoy! I also went live earlier this week with another version of this recipe. Equally as good!!!

Cookie Dough Protein bites 

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

How to Eat Healthy & Not Lose Your Mind

Healthy eating. Anybody else seem so confused and frustrated by all the different ways to eat out there? 

I was for so long. Holy moly. It couldn’t be that complicated, right?

Actually, it was. 

Here is the thing. I was constantly buying the idea that I had to sweat for many hours and eat way less in order to get the results I wanted. If I wanted to be shredded, than LESS calories was the goal.

And I did. I consumed less calories and worked out a ton to eliminate a lot more.

Big problem arose as I noticed I was tired more, not energized, even though I was working so hard.

Turns out, the right calories and nutrients matter. It is not necessarily just a matter of eating less and working out more.

Now, I eat three, nutrient dense meals a day and my workouts are only about 30 minutes max. I have not spent more than 45 minutes in a workout in 5 years. 

I don’t really calorie count. I do pay attention to portion sizes (because let’s be real. This girl loves chips and salsa and avocados and cheese and potatoes.) 

But I do pay attention to the kinds of foods I choose. I have a burger or something more rich when I feel like it. I still drink my coffee with creamer. But 90% of the time, my nutrition is good.

And yours can be too.

When I grocery shop, I spend very little time in the middle of the grocery store, unless I am needing to stock up on gluten free flours or other pantry items. I spend a great deal of time in the produce section AND the meat/deli section. 

That is one way to truly cut costs in your grocery bill. One of my meals consist of Shakeology, and I buy that as a 30 day supply  on autoship so it doesn’t add more expense to my grocery budget. 

My main items that I buy are:

*seasonal veggies and fruit

*grassfed beef

*organic free range chicken

*sustainble sourced fish

*healthy fats, cheese, almond milk

And whatever else I want for the week.

I made a video on my YouTube channel sharing my grocery haul from this past Sunday. Everything that I spent cost me a total of $93. Those items will last me for a week for a family of four. 

Another thing. I don’t really buy snack foods. My husband does. He loves his popcorn and candy. I don’t personally buy it. I will make Shakeology balls (recipe coming this week) and other treats that we can have as a family if we are wanting something sweet. But buying the extra snacks add to our budget. My kids do enjoy Larabars and the Cliff ZKids bars, but I try to make my own if I can. I want to keep it as simple as possible and I want to have my kids eat more fruit and veggies and it is hard for them to do that if I keep distracting them with other options. 

5/22 Grocery Haul

Planning for meals doesn’t have to be super hard, either. You have to do a little research and some trial and error on what works best for your family. You don’t have to be Paleo this, or Vegan that in order to be healthy. Train your brain to think “just choose more Whole Foods” and you will notice a difference in how you and your family feel. 

Don’t try to make fancy healthy dinners all the time. Maybe once in awhile you can. But keep it simple, girlfriend. Chances are, you are like me and super busy. Who the heck has time to cook for hours?! I don’t! Instead of stressing yourself out and feeling defeated, find several easy meals you can put regularly on rotation and go from there! You can do this, mama! 

Stay tuned for a Shakeology recipe that isn’t a shake! 🙌🏻 

You can do this. If you commit to 30 days of shopping differently without any agendas, and really buying whole food, you will find it is easier (and cheaper!) than you realized. But you have to try. 

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

21 Day Fix Extreme Begins 


Alright friends! Here we go! I am kicking off three weeks of intense exercise and I could not be more excited. 

My body has responded well to the break with Piyo. I definitely needed the stretching. Sometimes, I am afraid to take those kinds of breaks because I think of losing my results.

But breaks are good. Low impact is good. It helps our bodies to heal from all the stress we put it through. Exercise is still stress. So take care of your body.

21 Day Fix Extreme is a three week fitness and nutrition program created by Autumn Calabrese (creator of the 21 Day Fix, Country Heat, and co-creator of Hammer & Chisel).  It is a step up from the original Fix so if you have never completed the 21 Day Fix or you have not worked out for awhile, 21 DFX is not for you. 

I will be using Beachbody on Demand to stream my workouts.


I love that everything is fast and convenient for me and at my fingertips. 

The last week, I will try to do the bonus or ultimate workouts. I will play it by ear. 

Nutrition is a biggie with this program. Autumn is much more strict nutritionally with 21 DFX. That is fine for me. 

She has created a nutrition guide for this program that I intend to follow, as well as eating mostly Paleo and drinking Vegan Vanilla Shakeology. 

I will also be taking Beachbody Performance Energize before my workouts each day, with the exception of yoga. 

I have already begun the prep work with my current Virtual Bootcamp community (sign ups open again in June….stay tuned). 

I don’t want to lose weight, BUT I do want to build more muscle mass.  I love muscles. So I will need to pay attention to what I am fueling my body with. It will be important. 


My other goal will be to get a tan. Girlfriend is white. Sorry folks. 

So excited to begin!!!!!

Let’s do this! 

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

The Right Tools 


I am a firm believer in having the right tools on hand whenever you begin a new business, goal, job, even fitness routine. To me, having the necessities makes a big difference than just trying to wing it.

I don’t think you need to have EVERYTHING, but I do think that there are some things that are non negotiable when it comes to your fitness and health.

My kids play sports. Baseball and swim, respectively. 

For Sean, he needs a helmet, a glove, a bat, a cup, cleats, a bucket of balls and a tee to hit off of in between games and practices. He doesn’t NEED a fancy membership to the batting cages, but we do invest in that as well to help him. Getting him to the tools necessary to play means we had to invest. It didn’t come free. But, because we want him to grow as a player and practice and learn, making sure he had the right tools was important.

For Madi, her swim club requires fins, a few practice swimsuits, kickboard, meet swimsuit and swim cap, several goggles and practice swimcaps. Again, we make sure she has what she needs to set her up for success. It requires investment on our part. Madi having the right equipment means she is able to practice efficiently and grow. It doesn’t mean she will be the best swimmer. But it does mean she is prepared for success.

For those of you with kids who play sports….do you just expect your kids to wing it or play their sport without the right tools?

No, right?!

So why do you think you can wing it with your health and fitness goals without the right tools to set you up to succeed? Because it will cost you money?! Of course it will! 

But I promise, it will cost less than what you pay for your kid’s sport gear (I promise!!!!)

You want to set yourself up for success in your health and fitness journey? Here is what you will need:

1. A fitness program with a calendar you can easily follow along with. All the workouts are created for you. You don’t have to spend anytime figuring out yourself (unless you like having a whole bunch of options to choose from, then I recommend BOD) and all you have to do is push play. Follow the calendar! That’s it! Success number 1!

2. A nutrition guide that is included WITH your fitness program. Yes. You can know exactly what to eat. Each program has a nutrition guide that was specifically created with that program. To be real with you, in the beginning, I followed those nutrition guides to a T. They helped me a lot. Now, several years into my journey, I know what foods work best for my body and what helps me get results. But those of you who are just starting, give yourself another win and follow the nutrition guide. Stop saying it is not realistic. YES IT IS. 

3. Shakeology. Yes. I said it. It is necessary. You want to know the biggest reason I hear from fellow moms about why they can’t eat healthier or meal plan? Because they lack time to cook. I understand. So give yourself win #3, and drink Shakeology one meal a day to help fill in the gaps (even when you are eating healthy), fuel your body with nutrients designed to give you optimal nutrition, is clinically proven to help you lose weight, maintain healthy blood sugar levels, give you more energy without those crazy energy drinks or fat burners. Quit calling it a protein shake. It is not a protein shake. It is optimal nutrition. 

4. Get in a community of people who are doing this with you so you won’t be alone. Fitness is more fun when we do it together, let’s be honest. And guess what, after you have the right tools, groups like mine and others are FREE! Yay! In these groups, you make new friendships, discover new foods and recipes to the. We celebrate our victories, both scale and non-scale and so much more. The fit life is fun once we get over the initial hurdle. We just feel so much better and we want everyone to do this with us. 

5. Have a coach like me in your corner. I have been doing this for seven years, six years as a coach. I have been where you have been. I have had similar struggles. My kids were 4 and 1 when I began. I hardly had any time. Sanity was a dream. I just wanted to have energy and feel normal and not look like I was still pregnant. Cooking healthy meals? Had no clue at first what that looked like. We had no money. How was I going to afford an investment like that. It seemed so selfish at first. But I was willing to take a chance on myself. I am so glad I did. 

I feel better at 35 than I did at 25. 

Now, it is your turn. Trust me when I say that all that I have listed above will cost you LESS than what you have had to pay for your kids sports and activities. 

Get the right tools. They matter. Set yourself up for success and don’t wing it. 

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

When Encouragement Leads to Enabling

“Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life,

but he who rejects reproof leads others astray.”

Proverbs 10:17 ESV

I am about to embark on something that might make some uncomfortable, but I feel, in complete honesty, that it needs to be mentioned.

Friends, not all encouragement is good or for the benefit of others.  Sometimes, what we deem as encouragement can very well be enabling that person in sin, disobedience, and in ways that are detrimental to their health or livelihood.

It is hard nowadays to tell someone the truth about their actions, even if you are coming to them as a friend.  We either don’t want to hurt their feelings, or we don’t feel it is our place to comment, or we are caught in this idea that we are judging if we try to correct or share with someone a differing opinion or perspective.

When I coach those in my Virtual Bootcamp, I am not content to let them stay that way they were before they joined my group. I am all for girl-power and encouragement. I am all for loving our body and the skin we are in.

But, the reason why those gals chose to do my bootcamp was not just so I could be their cheerleader. It was so that I could tell them the truth and help them reach their health and fitness goals.

If someone tells me they are struggling with meal planning or eating healthier, or finding time to workout, and I ask them their schedule or their budget……and they aren’t willing to adjust  or heed the advice I give them…..are they willing wanting to change? Or do they just want to be encouraged and told that what they are doing is working when it clearly is not!

Now, let’s be clear.  Do not be cruel. Being honest with someone about where they are at does not mean that you get to have an attitude and be rude. That’s not honesty or keeping it real.  That just makes you mean. If being mean means keeping it real, no thanks. We don’t have time for mean girls. We are past middle school, got it?

You can encourage, while also offering constructive tips to help that person.

Say a good friend of yours is going through a hard time in her marriage.  She feels her husband does not help a lot with the house and she posts it on Facebook for all to see, are you really encouraging her and helping her by affirming her post and being okay with her criticizing her husband on social media? No. You are enabling destructive behavior because her comments will get back to her husband.  He may very well not be helpful around the house, but we can affirm her heart while also helping her see that there are other ways to deal with issues in their marriage.

If I were her friend, I would have told her to take down the post. How would she feel if her husband posted something similar about her on social media? 

We can love people where they are at, but we must be bold enough to speak up if we see painful or destructive behavior or sin.  We do not want to be enablers. We want to help people out of the pits they find themselves in.  But that takes effort.

Just like someone who wants to lose weight or get healthier needs to get up and do something about it, we must encourage them to do so. We can’t tell them they are doing just fine when we literally see them struggling and on a hamster wheel of failed results.

We can be better friends than that.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany