This photo above is an old photo of us. It is really hard to find a picture of the two of us together because my husband doesn’t do selfies. Ha! He barely likes taking family photos.
So when you see a picture of him, rejoice! 😜 It is a rare one.
But this man does exist. And he is a good one.
And he isn’t willing to share me with all of you.
I can literally feel you bristling at that thought. The words “controlling” and “manipulative” and “selfish” probably come to mind when I share that with you.
The truth is, I have often felt that way about him. Being the oh so independent woman that I am, someone not willing to share is not my idea of fun. I thought it was to my detriment that he would want me to be with him only in the evenings and not get involved in the things I wanted to participate in.
It has taken me a really long time to realize that it was to my benefit.
It was to our benefit.
I am doing the new Beth Moore study, Entrusted, and that was one of the biggest takeaways I got from the opening video session.
When choosing what our life is to be about and the direction we are going and the ministry we will pursue because it is our calling, if you are married, don’t leave behind your husband. If he is not on board with where you felt led, God will not lead a couple into two different directions. They will go together. The encouragement to pray for your husband and desiring his blessing for you to go forward on your calling cannot be downplayed. You want his blessing. Not for him to allow you.
But to bless you.
What a counter cultural message that is!! In the day and age of women wanting to be world changers and leaders, and we want men to lead but on OUR terms….God gracefully shows us the best way.
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and its Savior….
Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Ephesians 5:22-23,25.
My husband is not willing to share because he wants me around. He knows my tendency to run on passion and spread myself too thin. He knows that I can get so wrapped up in the passion of my heart that I forget to tend to the good work in front of me.
When so many women want to conquer kingdoms, many of us women forget to fight for our marriages. We see our husbands as controlling and tyrannical, when instead we need to see them as men who want to lead us, protect us, love us, and fight for us. I can literally say, without a doubt in my soul, that if a gun was pointed at my heart, he would step in front of me and take that bullet. He would sacrifice his own life for me.
Isn’t that like Christ?
That is why my husband refuses to share me. He chose me to be his bride and he wants me be with him.
So ladies, if he says no at first to a passion or a desire of your heart, pray that it would be God’s will to help him see where you are being led…and pray that that if the answer is still no…that you can submit and trust that you are being led elsewhere.
Be a Size You,