Monthly Archives: October 2016

He Isn’t Going To Share

This photo above is an old photo of us. It is really hard to find a picture of the two of us together because my husband doesn’t do selfies. Ha! He barely likes taking family photos.

So when you see a picture of him, rejoice! ūüėú It is a rare one.

But this man does exist. And he is a good one.

And he isn’t willing to share me with all of you.

I can literally feel you bristling at that thought. The words “controlling” and “manipulative” and “selfish” probably come to mind when I share that with you.

The truth is, I have often felt that way about him. Being the oh so independent woman that I am, someone not willing to share is not my idea of fun. I thought it was to my detriment that he would want me to be with him only in the evenings and not get involved in the things I wanted to participate in.

It has taken me a really long time to realize that it was to my benefit. 

It was to our benefit.

I am doing the new Beth Moore study, Entrusted, and that was one of the biggest takeaways I got from the opening video session.

When choosing what our life is to be about and the direction we are going and the ministry we will pursue because it is our calling, if you are married, don’t leave behind your husband. If he is not on board with where you felt led, God will not lead a couple into two different directions. They will go together. The encouragement to pray for your husband and desiring his blessing for you to go forward on your calling cannot be downplayed. You want his blessing. Not for him to allow you.

But to bless you.

What a counter cultural message that is!! In the day and age of women wanting to be world changers and leaders, and we want men to lead but on OUR terms….God gracefully shows us the best way. 

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and its Savior….

Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Ephesians 5:22-23,25. 

My husband is not willing to share because he wants me around. He knows my tendency to run on passion and spread myself too thin. He knows that I can get so wrapped up in the passion of my heart that I forget to tend to the good work in front of me.

When so many women want to conquer kingdoms, many of us women forget to fight for our marriages. We see our husbands as controlling and tyrannical, when instead we need to see them as men who want to lead us, protect us, love us, and fight for us. I can literally say, without a doubt in my soul, that if a gun was pointed at my heart, he would step in front of me and take that bullet. He would sacrifice his own life for me.

Isn’t that like Christ?

That is why my husband refuses to share me. He chose me to be his bride and he wants me be with him. 

So ladies, if he says no at first to a passion or a desire of your heart, pray that it would be God’s will to help him see where you are being led…and pray that that if the answer is still no…that you can submit and trust that you are being led elsewhere. 

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

My Workouts for the Week

I have been working a great deal to get in a good routine before my Ultimate Reset (which begins November 1st). Part of that is because I don’t really believe in sitting around and doing nothing while you wait for a start date. I believe in doing what you can in the moment and creating momentum. 
It is hard to build momentum when you are not moving.
My workouts last week consisted of:

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Turbofire. This is an oldie program for me. It is a favorite of mine and always fun to go back to once in awhile. 
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Cize. Another fantastic program, especially for those of you who despise traditional workouts. This one will leave you sweating and you will feel sore the next day. Dancing is serious work.


I went running as well after dropping the kids off at school. Running, while not my favorite, helps me clear my head.


I also made sure to build muscles using either the 21 Day Fix or Focus T25.

If you are in between programs, don’t stop. Keep the momentum going by moving. 

Be a Size You,

Tiff 

5 1/2 Years Ago….

Coach Summit 2016 via Team Beachbody
Coach Summit 2016 via Team Beachbody

I made a decision a few years ago to become a Beachbody Coach. I had come off from a really transforming year of working on my own health and achieving results.¬† I had used a couple of Beachbody’s fitness programs (shoutout to an oldie but goodie….TurboJam!) and focused on putting good, nutritious foods in my body, as well as running 5k’s.¬† I was pretty happy with how I felt and was so proud of how far I had come from that tired, unhealthy girl before.

I learned about the Beachbody Coaching opportunity via the internet. And when I say the internet, I meant that I literally found out about it by watching a YouTube video of a coach as she shared her story and why she decided to supplement her family’s income with this opportunity.

I had done MLM businesses before, and I was not very good at them.  You could say that I spent more money than I actually made.  My husband was not thrilled at the idea of me doing another one.  But I am 5 years into being a Coach now.  I am a 3 Star Diamond, which means I have three Diamonds underneath me on Team Be a Size You (My personal team) and we are growing.

The best part is that I get to provide for my family.

I get to be at home with them.

I get to work on MY TIME and WHEN I WANT.¬† I don’t have to miss my kid’s events in order to get a project finished or be at work. My kids get ME.

I get to help people really transform their lives. I get to watch as women from all over the country are taking the steps to improve their health and even start a business of their own to help their families and give more.

I don’t have a business degree. Truth be told, I don’t even have a college degree.¬† When I started my business, we were on one income, and it was a meager one at that.¬† We literally LIVED paycheck to paycheck.

Now, we have more breathing room.  Now, we can focus on paying off debt and being free.

Now, I can go to the grocery story and get what my family needs instead of worrying if we will have enough to make it to the next paycheck.

Now, I can give more to those who need it, above my tithe, because when much is given, much is expected.

I get to share the gift of health and help others do the same.

I get to be a part of a community.

I have gained new friendships and opportunities that I never thought possible.

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This business has been fun. It has been challenging. It has been rewarding.

And I am still going.

Tonight, I am sharing my story LIVE about how I got in shape using Beachbody’s fitness programs, how Shakeology has opened my eyes to quality over quantity, how I got introduced to this business, and how it has changed the financial landscape of my family and how I can give more and lead better.

I will also be answering your questions, so if you would like an invite, comment below or email me in order to get the invite and participate.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany Harper

Income Statement Disclaimer: Team Beachbody¬ģ does not guarantee any level of success or income from the Team Beachbody Coach Opportunity. Each Coach’s income depends on his or her own efforts, diligence, and skill. See our Statement of Independent Coach Earnings for the most recent information on the actual incomes of all our Coaches.¬†

If Apostle Paul Ran for President, Do You Think He Would Win?

*This is kind of a political post, and kind of not one. 

That sounds like a funny question right? What does the apostle Paul, the man who wrote the majority of the New Testament and shared the gospel with Gentiles like me, have to do with the election?

I don’t know, actually, but he keeps coming to my mind when I think about how we Christians are behaving when it comes to the two candidates on the ballot for November. I am not going to say who I am voting for, but I am pretty sure that you are a smart person, and based on my beliefs, you can probably guess. And I am okay with that.

Apostle Paul is one of my favorite people in the bible. Most of us who study God’s word and desire to share it with others often share a mini crush on Paul. He speaks the truth, there is nothing PC about him. His words that he penned, inspired by the Holy Spirit have encouraged us and convicted us as we walk with our Lord and shout the good news to the masses.

But if he ran for president? I don’t think he would win.

At least, not according to the voices of many evangelicals today. We Christians love to focus on the wrongs of others and we are often unable to see them as redeemable.

Paul, formerly known as Saul, sought after those who were followers of The Way. He imprisoned them. Had them murdered. He was a Pharisee who knew the law up and down, left and right. He sought to eliminate all of those who called on the name of this person named Jesus.

That is until Jesus met him on the road to Damascus, and the rest is history as laid out in the pages of the Bible.

I can imagine the fear and anxiety some believers may have felt when they heard that the man who had sought to destroy them, was now a fellow believer.  He once had been blind but now he saw the truth. Can you imagine?  What would you believe? A former murderer and prosecutor is now changed and is good? How do you trust that? I think that says a lot about our God. That he would use a man who was depraved in His sin to set the world on fire for Christ.  Imperfect. Ugly. Murderous. Hate-filled.

IMAGINE that.

I also think of King David. Do you think, based on today’s society, that if King David ran for President, he would win? I don’t think so. Not based on¬†some¬†evangelicals answer and responses to sin or to one’s past failures.

King David had an affair with a married woman, then had her husband killed in order to cover up the affair. If that had been recorded on video and come up during election season, do you think Christians would be willing to vote for him?¬†¬† If you have been paying attention to the election, uh, that would be a big FAT NO. Yet, David was classified as a man after God’s¬† own heart.

Imagine that.

And don’t forget King Solomon, David’s son.¬† How many wives and concubines did he have?¬† A womanizer in biblical times. Yet, he was able to build the temple.¬† He wrote much of the book of Proverbs and Ecclesiastes. He was considered the wisest man in the world¬†in his time. God used a man who many today would consider as someone who objectified women to rule over His people.

Imagine that.

In all of our ugliness and our imperfections, the messiness of sin, God still chooses to use us to further His Kingdom and to tell others about His son. To those who are not believers, they will not understand this. It will be foolishness to them. In fact, they will use these three very men as examples of why religion is so bad. But God says that He loved the world so much that He gave His only begotten Son so that everyone who believed in Him would not perish in their sin but have eternal life.

Everyone.

Even for Donald Trump. Even for Hilary Clinton.

Does that make you uncomfortable? It should.

When it comes to who to vote for into office, the ship has sailed on finding a person with absolutely perfect character to become the leader of our nation. It is a hopeful thing, but it is unlikely. We all have ugly inside. I pray to God that the things I did 10 or 20 years ago never come to surface. I have spent the last several months researching positions and what I believe should be the role of the Government.  So obviously, I have chosen a candidate, while wholly imperfect, to vote for because their policies line up with what I believe in regards to government policy.

We are a depraved nation. America has long sought to put their own ideals and push God to the background. We are a nation who makes it own rules when it comes to morality.¬† We are a nation that says “get in line“, “me first“, “I am entitled“, “It is my body“, “I can do what I want” and so forth. We pick and choose which moral ideals we will follow and crucify so long as we get our way. This must stop.

We must PRAY.¬† To those who call themselves Christians, I know that we don’t have the¬†nicest and most wholesome¬†candidates up there.¬† I know it may even literally hurt you to say the name of the candidates and admit to whom you may be voting for.¬† Heck, you may even be completely undecided and want to bang your head into a wall. I feel you! But this is our reality right now. Be praying. God sees what is going on. He is still on the throne now, and He will be on the throne after the elections. He is one the throne forever. This world is not our home, but we can still use our voice to impact it for the good of the Kingdom.

“For at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light.” Ephesians 5:8

I have so much more to say, but words fail me.

Praying for our nation today.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

 

Hit the Ultimate Reset Button on Your Health

Let me be 100% honest with you.

My workouts have SUCKED wind lately.¬† Sucked wind is a spiritual term.¬† So don’t get mad at me.

I have felt so tired, unmotivated, I can barely push through them.

At first, I naturally thought that it was the fitness program. “I am just bored.” I would constantly tell myself. “Find something new.”

But changing wasn’t helping. And if I could be even more honest with you, my nutrition wasn’t totally on point either.

Our family has been so incredibly busy these last 2 months that I have slipped in my meal planning. We are grabbing quick and easy over nutrient dense (aside from Shakeology) because we are literally in our car every single night of the week either for work, our kids extra curricular activities, or for a small group.

I have been irritable, bloated, and overall I just feel yucky. I don’t look yucky.

It is an internal thing. My body doesn’t feel good.

It has been hard. I know some of you understand where I am coming from because you are there.

So I decided I needed to do a major overhaul to get back to feeling good inside.

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I have never claimed to be perfect in this health and fitness journey. I am constantly on a path to growth. I mess up a lot, but thankful for resources that can help me get back on my feet.  There is no shame in admitting that something needs to change and then doing it!

Beginning November 1st, Be a Size You is embarking on a 21 Day journey to Ultimate Health.  I personally will be doing the Beachbody Ultimate Resource, which is essentially a major focus on our internal health and gut. Many would call it a detox, however, there is NO STARVING in this program. You will be eating food everyday, and they are delicious meals that will fill your tummy but also cleanse your insides.  Whole food can do that.

So what is the Ultimate Reset?

Here are some basic points about the program:

*It is designed to help your body’s detoxification process

*You will eat three whole food, nutrient dense meals a day.

*It is a 21 Day program. 

*Helps lose weight

*Improve overall health and energy

*The 21 Day program includes targeted supplements that will help your body remove toxins from your body and function at its most optimal.

*It is not an exercise program, although it is encouraged to do low impact exercises (think walking, light stretching. No strenuous workouts! Your body will be working hard for the next 21 Days. It needs the break.)

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Since I will be doing this program as well, I will be drinking Vegan Shakeology as well as following the meal plan that comes with it.  You will get specific meals that you can eat during this program, recipes, and if you join my group, my support.  I am here to do this with you!

So how can you join or learn more to see if the Ultimate Reset is really for you? Let me first start by saying that even though it will only be for 21 days, this is not a program you can kind of commit to. In order to see the full benefits from the Reset, you must commit fully to the plan.¬† It will take some preparation on your part, but if you are willing, you will notice a difference and see results.¬† Nothing will truly change unless you change things.¬† You must be willing to put in the work and the sacrifice in order to see change.¬† This isn’t a quick fix.¬† It is designed to be¬† a reboot on your insides so that you can get back on track and feel good inside your skin.¬† I would never recommend you to do anything that would be harmful or pointless. I want those I work with to experience true change.

If you would like to be considered for my private group, you can apply here. Please, only apply if you are serious about being a part of the Ultimate Reset and my group, and if you are not already a coach or currently working with a Coach.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

Radiant

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The word is defined as this: sending out light; shining or glowing brightly.

What an incredible word to use to describe those of us who claim Jesus as our Lord and Savior and choose follow Him with hearts abandoned.

I had the incredible opportunity to attend our church’s women’s conference and it was such a blessing to my heart.¬† There were so many amazing nuggets that I took away from this weekend and I rabidly scribbled them down in my little notebook because I didn’t want to miss them.¬† I wanted these words so that I could go back and read them again and of course, share them with you.

Here are several of my favorites:

“Hope is like oxygen.”-Nancy Ortberg

“Hope is what lives in between faith and denial.” Nancy Ortberg

“Hope is really a journey to believe that God is good.” Nancy Ortberg

“In a broken world, hope is hard work.” Nancy Ortberg (this…wow…I really needed that!)

“God’s power is activated in your life when you believe He is who He says He is.” -Karissa Harrison

“Your addiction to comfort is the enemy of your purpose.” -Karissa Harrison (Whew!! Again, such a good word!)

“Fear drives us to be selfish.” -Karissa Harrison

“Action is often required before provision.” -Karissa Harrison

Just an incredible time of digging into God’s word and listening as these two women with incredible insight share their wisdom with us so that we could grow closer to our God and then go forth into the world with God confidence in who He says He is and what He says about us. So that we may be shine brightly in a dark and hurting world.

I loved that Karissa Harrison, our women’s pastor, challenged us to recite God’s word over and over again:

“For God gave us not a Spirit of fear, but of power and love and self-control.” 2 Timothy 1:7

Spending time with other women at the church and hearing their stories and what God was teaching them that weekend was refreshing and encouraging.

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Let’s be Radiant.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

 

She Is Braver Than I

My precious 10 year old daughter ran for 5th Grade Student Vice President.

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Can I just say that as a momma, I am so dang proud of her.  At her age, I would have never have thought to try for something like that. I enjoyed singing and acting, but being a part of ASB and coming up with ideas to make your school better and help your fellow peers?

Not a chance.  But that is Madi.  She has a servants heart and she loves volunteering and giving her time.  The fact that she went for it amazes me. She knew that she could lose. She went for it anyway. She is much braver than I.

Today, they announced the Student Counsel Body.

Madi had her hopes high this morning.  She really wanted to be Vice President.

Today, her little heart was broken.  I watched as another well deserving little girl was announced for the coveted position.  With her back towards me, I could see herself hunch over, head lowered, and I knew the tears were flowing.

Losing out on something you hope for sucks.  There is no better way to say it. It sucks. I have been there many times. I know many of you reading this have been there as well.

As her mama, I tried to comfort as best as I could. I told her today how proud I was of her. Her friends did their best to love on her and tell her they were proud of her as well.

But she needs to experience this disappointment.

Being brave sometimes comes at a cost.  Sometimes, your heart gets broken in the process.  There are moments of victory, to be sure.  But you can expect that when you choose to take chances, you will experience failure.

But praise God failure isn’t final.

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“Be strong and let your heart take courage, all you who wait for the Lord.” Psalm 31:24

I think one of the biggest lessons for me as her mama is that I have to allow my children to experience disappointment. They won’t get everything they work for.¬† Trust me, I would much rather have my kids win all the time. But that is not possible. It isn’t reality.

I also know that during these moments of disappointment and failure, character is developed.¬† You really do discover what you are made of and who you are as a person when you experience moments of defeat.¬† I don’t think I have heard a person yet tell me that because they got everything they ever wanted or wished for, they turned out to be a better or stronger person.

I know for myself, it was when I walked through the darkest moments, the hardest times, the storms and the valleys that I discovered strength, perseverance, and who I was.  Who God designed me to be.  Those moments also gave me an idea of my purpose.

I know that today was merely about losing a school election.¬†¬† Without over spiritualizing it though, I hope that Madi will choose today’s disappointment as an opportunity to learn about what it is she wants to do and her purpose and that she realizes her God given gifts and natural born abilities. My hope is that she and I will have many opportunities to pray together and grow together as she continues to be brave and go out and do things for His Kingdom.

Be Brave,

Tiffany

Fall Outfits I have Been Loving

I love dressing for Fall.

Get me some skinny jeans or leggings, oversized tops and sweaters, scarves, booties or boots, and I am so good to go.¬† If you haven’t guessed, I LOVE shopping. I love clothes. I love helping my friends find cute outfits and deals and helping them feel like the cute sassy mamas that they are.¬† My mission is really to help women feel good in their skin and say so long to insecurity. (Great book by Beth Moore by the way! Go read it!)

Here are just a few of my favorite outfits recently:

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We are still experiencing high temps here in SoCal, but pretty soon, I won’t be able to wear those cute shorts or dresses. But these have been my favorite go to pieces so far.¬† I love oversized tops.¬† And if you recognize a few of those pieces, yes, they are LuLaRoe.¬† I don’t know what happened, but I have become obsessed with their clothing.

I don’t sell it, but I know several amazing gals who would love to style you if you have ever wanted to try them out. Their leggings? Like buttah!

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There are also some great pieces at H&M, Old Navy, Brickyard Buffalo, Jane.com, and of course, Target!!!! That is where I stock up on most of my seasonal wear.¬† I also love layering too, which comes in really handy when the weather cools down and you have dresses that can go from summer to fall.¬† Don’t be afraid to mix and match and get creative.¬† IG and Pinterest are great places to get inspiration so you can find a style all your own and rock it!

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

Ready for Harvest

Whenever I think of Autumn, I think of the words in John 4:34-35:

“Jesus said to them, ‘My food is to do the will of Him who sent me and to accomplish His work…..Look, I tell you, lift up your eyes, and see that the fields are white for harvest.”¬†

After summer, Fall is my next favorite season.¬† Here in California, we don’t really experience seasons.¬† Unless you live in more northern parts of our state, it generally stays the same temperature with some variances in heat. But not too much. For instance, last week? We were hitting 90 plus degree temps.

Yeah, Fall doesn’t feel like fall quite yet.

But that is okay.  I think the fields are still ripe and ready.

Especially the fields in your own home, and in your communities, and in the hearts of those you love.

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Our family got to take a break from the mundane and school, and went to our local apple farm in Julian, CA to pluck from the trees that were ready to share their abundance with us.  This is the kind of stuff I live for.  Julian is this perfect little town and it is so cute and I wish that I could visit it all the time!

We got to go with friends from church and can I say that we as a family really needed this. We needed to go on an adventure together. Yes, to most, it was simply apple picking. But to me, to this mama heart, we have been so busy rushing from one activity to the next, our schedules are full and it feels like we are on a hamster wheel. So the fact that we got to bend the rules a bit and get away as a family together to do something fun meant the world to me.

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The Fields are ready for harvest in my own home.¬† No one else is going to spend as much time as Dan or me to teach my children about Jesus or spend time with them.¬† It is the will of God who created me and made me a mother to raise up these little humans.¬†¬† It is my job. It is my main ministry.¬† I have a heart for women and I am actively pursuing women’s ministry, but my first role is wife and mama.¬† Family.

It is why going to the apple farm with the kids and Dan meant so much to me.  It was a chance to create a memory that we could talk about together.

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I am also reminded that I am to love other people, especially when their hearts are ripe and ready to hear a message that can be transforming to their lives.  I will let God do all of the heart transforming work. I will simply open my mouth and be available to those who need to hear powerful truth.

Being on social media tends to be a popularity contest of sorts.¬† I don’t want to post so that I can become more popular or gain more likes. I want to post words that will inspire and point back to Him.¬† My hope is that each person who visits my small corner of the internet, they will be moved to learn more about their Creator and to fully submit to His goodness.

When I take my children out and we go on adventures, my heart isn’t that they will see how much money we spent or all the cool places we get to go.¬† My heart is that they will see that I love them and desire to spend time with them and to have fun with them and create memories together. Right now, I need to be nurturing and caring towards their little hearts so that as they grow older and one day have families of their own, they will spend the time harvesting in the hearts of their children, as Dan and I tried to do with them.

Often when a lot of read scripture and we see the callings that Jesus placed on the disciples to share and witness, we think of traveling all over the world, or going on missions trips or running non profits.  But God has shown me over and over again that I have my own little field right in front of me that needs attention.

For those fields are white for harvest.

Be a Size You,

Tiff