Monthly Archives: May 2016

Work to Connect, Not Sell

Photo by Team Beachbody 2014
Photo by Team Beachbody 2014

Yesterday, I had to post a PSA to my personal Facebook page regarding Facebook groups/parties.

Normally, I just remove myself and move on. But yesterday, I got added to a bunch of groups for products that I either already had a consultant for or for a person I didn’t even know. I was never invited once.  No one talked to me or connected with me to see if it was something I would be interested in or would benefit from.

Being in direct sales myself, it is the part of these types of businesses I hate.  It is the WRONG way to grow your business. Do you know why?

Because this is a relationship business. You don’t build relationships by telling people to just throw your friends randomly into a group and allow them to be bombarded with “suggestions” on what product to buy.  That is like being dragged into a store you had never heard about and then a salesperson shoving their products in your face constantly.

If you are in direct sales, and parties are a part of your business, there is a better way.

  1. Personally connect with that person you want to share your products with. Ask questions about themselves, their families, their life at the moment.  I have found that a lot of my friends want to support my business and love what I am doing. But they don’t have a need for it right now, or the price is out of their budget at the moment. But they want to support you!  Your friends really do want you to succeed! If your friends want to see you fail in your business, well, then maybe they aren’t really your friends! But invite someone personally to your party. Trust me, it will mean a lot more.
  2. Share your product.  Please, refuse to just post a photo of a generic sales post and then leave your personal link.  Why did you choose to use that product? What has it done for you? For your family? Any personal stories?  Here is the thing: Facts tell. Stories sell. My friends who have purchased and/or joined my boot camps really could care less about my product.  But they have chosen to purchase from me or join my boot camp because my own story encouraged them in their own journey.
  3. Invite. Wait, didn’t I say that already in number 1? Yes. Because that is the biggest point of this whole thing. Invite someone. Personally. Call them on the phone.  Send them a note via snail mail. Connect with them.  Make it about them, not your product or your business or what YOU can get out of it.

When I share about my upcoming boot camps, I do not create my boot camp and then throw people into it. Each person has either filled out an application to be considered for the group, or personally invited by me because they have shared with me in the past some of their health and fitness goals. In order for them to be inserted into my boot camp, they either must confirm with a purchase (if it is my 30 day group), or confirm via email/verbal that they want an invite to my group.  Otherwise, if they don’t respond, they don’t get in.

I want to help people who want to do this with me.  I want to work with the willing.  I don’t need a large group in order to have a successful boot camp. I can have just one or two and if they are changed in any way positively while in my groups, then it is a success. Because it is about THEM. Not about me.

Your groups/parties should be focused on building relationships with others and helping them wherever they are at.  Take away the agenda of just having a big group so you can make more money or get more free stuff. Invite because you believe that what you are doing can bless others and help others be better versions of themselves.

Be a Size You,


Jesus Loves this Hot Mess

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You ever feel like you are just one big mess?

It is part of my story. It still is, if I am being honest.  I know it can be really easy to show all of the good stuff on social media. On my IG, you see the highlight reel.  You will rarely see my constantly messy home (I seriously lack in the domestic department), the home cooked meals that are pushed away by picky 10 & 6 year olds.

The tantrums that happen right after you snap a smiling photo on social media for all the world to see.

And then there are your own failures.  The times where you want to get it right, but you end up getting it oh so wrong.

But we don’t often share those photos. We hide them, and then we vow to do better.

We try to be better.  Work harder. Have more faith. Be kinder.

I am thankful, though, that even with all my of my blundering, God loves me.  I am a hot mess. But He loves me too much to stay there.  I am a sinner saved by grace through faith.

That when I found Christ, I became a redeemed daughter of the King!

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, (she) is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 ESV (emphasis mine)

“For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9 ESV

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for the adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will…” Ephesians 1:3-5 ESV

Don’t you see?  The world may see us as failures. We may not ever live up the expectations that society puts on us.  We may very well be a hot mess due to our flesh.

But God loves us. He sees us as His children. Redeemed.  He did not have to create us in order to have a relationship with us.  He had no need. But He CHOSE to.

For that, I am thankful.

Be a Size You,


Team Iron Leadership Retreat

*Warning. Lots of pictures!*

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A couple of weeks ago, I had the pleasure of attending a Leadership Retreat in Black Mountain, NC to hangout and fellowship with other health and fitness leaders.

I was really anxious about this trip. Not because I didn’t want to go. I really did. I worked extremely hard to earn an invite to attend this weekend. But I am a momma of young kids and a hubby who is extremely busy with ministry. It was hard for me to let go of the grip of anxiety I felt when it came to leaving my family behind to do something that would be beneficial for me and for my team.

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But I am so glad I went. Relationships. Deep friendships with other women who will have your back have been an ongoing theme in my life lately. Community has been something that I did not think I needed for a long time, and God is showing me that I was wrong in that thinking.  Community helps you get back up when you have been knocked down by the rest of the world or by your own failures.

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We got to workout together early in the morning, then grab a cup of coffee or Shakeo and gather together on couch to dig into God’s word.  We prayed together about how we can be others focused for God’s Kingdom while working our businesses and giving Him the glory.

We spent time with each other sharing ideas on how to be better leaders for those who are on our teams.  How to make them better.  How to continuously grow ourselves so that we don’t grow stale and that we continue to reach those who need hope. Need encouragement. Need a little help.

We are in an industry that is so often inward focused.  How toned can my arms get? How do I get six pack abs? How many selfies can I take in order to share my “health and fitness journey” and get a ton of likes each day.

This past weekend reminded me that each of us is a part of a very special movement in our businesses. While we work on helping others live healthier lives, we must also pursue their hearts and build relationships with them and love them deeply.

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This is a ministry for us. For Be a Size You, which is my heart, it is more than just a health and fitness business. It is a ministry to really dig deep into the heart of each woman. That she loves the body God created her to have. That she takes care of it. And that she utilizes the gifts and talents He has bestowed towards her in order to give Him the glory and to impact His Kingdom for good.

We were spoiled with good food and good conversation. I left that retreat ready to get back to work. I left recharged and I knew why I was feeling so anxious about the trip. The enemy did not want me to go. But God did. He knew that I needed this. That I needed to be around all of these women. Each girl with her own set of gifts and abilities. Each person I was able to learn from.

I was ready to get back home to my hubby and my babies. I was ready to help more people and do this ministry well.

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Have you ever considered health and fitness as a ministry? Would you like to be around like minded women who can help you with your own health and fitness journey?  I would love nothing more than to connect with you and share about this incredible opportunity.  It has blessed me in more ways than I ever thought possible. Just fill out this form and I will get back to you right away!

Be a Size You,



How to Reach Your Goals

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“Apply your heart to instruction and your ears to words of knowledge.” Proverbs 23:12

What is it that you want to achieve?  Your goals and dreams. They can be about anything, not just health and fitness.

How clear is your vision?

The biggest difference between leaders and followers is their vision.  Followers get distracted and discouraged easily. They take their eyes off the road that will lead them to where they need to go, in order to find something that will help them achieve it faster. Leaders understand that sometimes, okay, most of the time, there are not short cuts to the road they are on. Which is why they have a clear vision of what they want to achieve and the steps they need to take in order to achieve it.

Let’s chat about your health for a second.  You may have a goal of getting in better shape.  But do you actually have a plan of action in order to get in shape? Just writing down that you want to workout 5 days a week won’t cut it as a plan. It is a good start, but do you know what workouts you will be doing those 5 days? And what about your nutrition. Do you have a meal plan mapped out for the week in order to help you get there so that your diet doesn’t outdo all the hard work you will do during the week?

Let’s chat about your life, now.  What about your time spent reading God’s word?  Just writing down that you want to be in your bible each morning won’t cut it. Again, that is a great start.  But in order to help you stay on that commitment, do you have a bible study you will go through, or a daily reading plan so you will know what to read that morning?

Vision. Focus. Staying on a plan is what will help you reach your goals. It more than likely won’t be the fastest way or the easiest way.  But it is the BEST way.

Be a Size You,


P.S. For those of you who want the best of both worlds, and you have health goals and you want to grow in your walk with Christ, signups for my Be a Size You bootcamp are open until May 23rd.  I hope you will join us (I only have a few spots left!) For a plan and vision that will help you reach your goals, this community is where you will find it!