Monthly Archives: July 2009

Mommy & Madi Day

Today I decided to take Madi out for some good old fashion shopping. So I gave Dan the baby and off the two of us went to the Shoppes at Chino Hills. First stop was into Forever21 because let’s just face it, my wardrobe needed a little r&r and since my birthday is next week Dan said I could get a few things. So there we are walking around the store and I am picking items that I am contemplating trying on when Madi says:

“I have to go potty.”

Dangit! I have an armload of clothes and I know Madi will NOT be able to hold it so I hand the clothes to a sales girl and rush to the restroom. Thank God it wasn’t that far. We made it inside the stall and I am literally laying down the toilet cover when All of a sudden…..Madi goes on the floor and in her underwear. We were right next to the toilet for crying out loud!!!!!

I know I will laugh about this one day. I know I will laugh about this one day. I…. You get the point. Ha! Who knew potty training would provide so many entertaining stories to tell. At least she verbalized that she needed to go. That is the important part! So I did make sure to applaud her for that.

But the toilet was right there…….

Moving on. So I didn’t go back to Forever immediately. Instead we took a detour and stopped by the Sanrio store (Hello Kitty) and I bought Madi a stuffed Hello Kitty doll. Then we headed back to Forever and I purchased some cute clothes for date night and lounging around. I also bought a cute pair of sandals from Reflections (they are having a huge sale right now) to wear with a couple of my outfits.

We walked around for a half hour and then Madi decided she wanted to go home. It was really hot outside but she did amazing. I love shopping with this little girl. She is a lot of fun and believe it or not loves to put her own outfits together. She is extremely fashionable. I love that about her.

On the way home I grabbed a frappucino for myself and then it was back into mommy mode. The break was just what I needed and it was so much fun to just hang out with my baby girl like I used to. I know she has missed the one on one interaction since Sean has arrived. So I think at least once a week I will need to make sure just do outings with her, even it just means going grocery shopping or running errands. I don’t ever want her to feel as if she is no longer loved or important to me just because she has a new sibling.

Hope you all have a spectacular weekend!!

Tiff

Pure Randomness

Forgive me a little bit as this post will more than likely be all over the place. But I figure this is my blog so I can type about anything I want. đŸ™‚

Right now I am just loving little things:

The big, adorable and irrisistable grin Sean has been giving me lately. It makes my heart glad to see that dimple. Oh so cute!

Hanging out at the Farmers Market with the family on Wednesday evening.

Been loving the time I have been spending in the Book of Isaiah lately. So inspiring, convicting and also encouraging. I am so thankful for God’s plan of salvation through His son Jesus Christ.

Currently obsessed with Earth Mama Angel Baby products. I love companies that strive to make products that aren’t full of chemicals and parabens. You have to check them out!

Looking forward to my birthday (August 4) next week and for date night with my hubby. We have already decided to eat at Joe’s Crab Shack, grab a Sprinkles cupcake and then walk around Fashion Island.

Also, can’t wait to hang with Tony, Bre and the gang over at Generate. We are loving what God is doing over there and we are excited to talk ministry with the team.

Homemade iced coffee. It’s free and delicious. đŸ™‚

Cloth diapers (still working on Dan about this one.)

Forever21 is calling my name and my checking account.

Homemade meals made with love by Mama Harper.

Hope you all are loving the little things in life. Xoxo!

TiffPure Randomness

School Bullying

Yesterday I picked up the book Please Stop Laughing At Me. I hadn’t heard much about it but after I read the synopsis on the back I thought this book would be right up my alley and that I would really learn a lot from it.

I finished it this afternoon. No babies starved during this time so please do not worry. đŸ™‚

The book retells the story of a young woman who was tormented physically and emotionally by her school peers from 5th grade until she graduated high school. It makes me sick to type that. Reading her graphic details of the kinds of things bullies said and did to her made me angry and I found myself telling her to go kick some tail. I understood how she felt. While I was not teased mercilessly as she was, there were many instances when girls picked on me for absolutely no reason. Really, absolutely none.

When I was in elementary school I had really long hair. It was like down to my waist long. I had one friend who decided that I was concieted. She told everyone that I thought I was better than them and her reason for that was because I kept fiddling with my hair. I thought that so ridiculous and I told her so. But she kept at it and then she started calling me ugly to my face and behind my back. I was so distraught I just didn’t want to even look at her or face her.

There was another incident in the third grade that absolutely horrified me. There was a boy in school that liked me, we will call him O. He spread a rumor that he and I were in the boys bathroom together and that we did things that third graders should not even know about! I was mortified. Kids were constantly coming up to me and asking me if I really did that with him, which of course I denied bit it seemed like they didn’t believe me. Apparently he had given “details” whatever they were and kids bought it. Even my best friend believed him. When I asked her why she simply told me “why wouldn’t I?”. Crushed, I confided to my mom who was so disgusted she contacted the principal.

In 6th grade I wanted to be cool. Unfortunately, I picked the wrong crowd to befriend. These kids already did things like smoke, drink, and sex that the longer I hung around I could see that I just didn’t fit in. And since teens are so perceptive, they could tell I didn’t fit in. There was one girl, we will call her L, who really didn’t like me. I didn’t even know who she was until she decided to pick on me at sixth grade camp. She said in front of everyone in our cabin that she didn’t like me, she thought that I was trying too hard and that I thought too much of myself. She even tried to get some of the other kids to beat me up!!!

In eighth grade I was in an educational video called Cliques, Who’s In, Who’s Out. Ironically I played One of the cool kids who decides to pick on another girl just because she was different. Guess who else was in the video?Yes, L. And she was trying to give an answer as to why some kids pick on other kids and she actually said it was wrong to do that. I almost died because at the time she was still picking on me. Ha!!!!

Fortunately, I had developed a thick skin and found friends whom I could truly relate to and didn’t feel like I had to be someone different in order to fit in. High school came and it was awesome. The college years were the best as I truly blossomed into the woman I am now. I always feel for the kids who are picked on. I was never “popular” although you could say that I was for the most part, with a few exceptions, liked by my peers. But I experienced times when all I wanted to do was beat up the person who picked on me one too many times. Sometimes, even as an adult, I find myself moving on the defensive whenever anyone tries to insult me or those I love. My sister’s and my brother have also experienced bullying. My brother is entering his freshman year in high school and he has by far experienced the worse of the bullying. Kids try to beat him up. The teachers and principal have rarely stepped in to stop it and my mom finally told the board that if they didn’t protect him he would have to do it himself. And she means fight back. And he has. By the way, the school knows who my parents are. My parents don’t mess around. I am so fortunate that I had them to help and fight for me when things go too hard to deal with alone. I know a lot of kids who are bullied don’t want their parents involved because they fear it will make things worse. And sometimes it can. But my parents can be scary so I never worried about things getting worse.

What about you? Did you experience bullying when you were younger? Have your wounds healed or are the scars still so deep it is hard for you to forgive your tormentors? Or if you are willing to be honest, were you the bully? Have you ever sought forgiveness from those you picked on?

Tiff

Don’t Just Focus On The Outside

"Your adornment must not be merely external, braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God." 1 Peter 3:3-4 (NASB)

In my quiet time a couple of days ago, this passage literally jumped and smacked me in the face.  I had read it many times before, and I am quite certain I could recite it back to you if you ever asked me about it.  The truth is, it hadn't really grabbed ahold of  my heart until Friday.  The reason this passage really struck a chord with me was because that very day I was complaining about my hair and how it needed to be done, and that I needed new clothes because I was so sick of wearing my maternity clothes. I was so focused on my outer appearance (and to be fair my hair does look atrocious and I do need new clothes, but that is beside the point right now) that I wasn't really worried about the condition of my heart and whether I was nourishing it spiritually and working towards being beautiful inside.  To be sure, I was humbled by this passage.

Often times there are folks in christianity who take this verse to the EXTREME and feel that any effort made towards looking attractive, stylish and put together is vain and unnecessary. After all, the bible does say do not focus on the external but rather internal does it not?  But I don't exactly take it that far.  I, and others, do not feel that I need to forgo my efforts in keeping up my personal appearance just to appear holy! I will even go so far as to say that I am a happily married woman, and quite frankly, I would like to stay that way and I want my husband to think I am hot! I don't want him to come home to a wife  who has been spit up on, peed on and hadn't taken a shower all day!  That is soooo not hot! The bible merely asks us to consider our actions and to not become so obsessed with our outer appearance, which will fade, wrinkle, droop over time as we age, that we forget to nurture our relationship with Christ and focus on becoming more like Him daily. 

I want to be more like Him.  Will I sometimes have to sacrifice my desire for a new outfit or not have the latest thing on the market? Of course.  I shop at Forever21,  I have never been to Beverly Hills and quite frankly my hair is often two months overdue for color.  But I am okay with that.  I am learning that I will appear far more beautiful to others and more importantly to my Lord when my heart and attitude reflects the one I profess to serve and adore.  I have by no means perfected having a gentle and quiet spirit, but I am striving, taking in His word and praying it permeates my heart and my mind.  That in the end, when I go home and meet with my Savior face to face, He will say to me "Well done my faithful daughter. Welcome home."

And that makes looking heavenward so much more appealing each day.  Soon and very soon…..

Tiff~  

Movie night

Tonight the four of us are hanging out past our bedtime and watching Beauty and the Beast together. Actually, one of them is sleeping (Sean) and the other is saying she is tired. But I think she is doing her best to stay up to watch.

And she is also telling me that I need to stop reciting the lines to the movie. LOL. I have seen it a few times. Probably one of my favorite movies as a little girl. Growing up my sister’s and I loved for the next Disney movie that would come out in the theaters. Our mom would make us some snacks, sneak then away in her purse (popcorn, hotdogs, candy and coke…..oh joy!) and we would catch the matinĂ©e showing. I have such awesome memories of the movies. I can’t wait to take Madi and Sean to the movies in the future.

For right now I think we will enjoy the free pleasures of DVD’s and VHS. đŸ™‚

What were some of your favorite movies as a kid? Did you go to the theater a lot as a kid? And did you sneak in food? That was the best part!! LOL!

TiffMovie night

Time for me

Now that I am a mommy of two, I am starting to realize just how proactive I am going to have to be in carving out time for myself. I have been able to escape for tiny bits of time so that I can read my bible (or heck go to the bathroom) but I know that eventually I will need to take some more time to take care of myself and nurture my spirit creatively, spiritually and physically.

One thing that I really want to start doing again is scrapbooking. I haven’t completed any layouts in nearly a year and I really am itching to play with paper and photos again. It was something that made me inexplicably happy and once we settle into our new place I will make sure to create a little space for me to play in.

I also want to get back into shape. My husband and I will be celebrating our fifth wedding anniversary in October and I want to go on a hot date with my man. We both are starting to feel the effects of aging and bearing children and we believe that taking care of ourselves physically will help us with the energy we need to do ministry and take care of our young children. I want to be around for a long time, Lord willing, to see my children grow up and have babies and families of their own.

Ministry is another thing that I really want to involve myself more in. Right now I am slightly limited in how much I can serve within the church due to having a young family. However, I want to participate more alongside Dan and really get down in the trenches with him. I know he really misses my active participation in a lot of the things he does for Illuminate, so I will need to work out a system where someone can watch the babies so that I can be available to serve.

Those are just a couple of goals I have for myself during this time. Life is so busy that I needed to type these out so that I can visually see where I want to go and what I want to achieve.

As mommies what are some ways you refresh? Or what goals have you set up for yourself?

Blessings,

Tiff

Time for me

Time for me


My first time out with 2 kids….alone

On Sunday evenings our college group, Illuminate, meets together at 6pm. Every other week Dan has a meeting with his leadership to go over some last minute details of the service. Since Sean is already 2 weeks old, we really wanted our group to meet him. Unfortunately I was going to have to go in early with Dan to church, drop him off then find something to do with my two kiddos for the next 4 hours.

I literally cried and prayed to God for strength. I wasn’t necessarily afraid of Sean acting up. It was Madi. She is a 3 year old terror right now.

So I dropped Dan off and I headed over to Target so that we could walk around and then grab some snacks afterwards. Of course I accidentally walked by the aisle marked DANGER (aka Barbie) and I hoped Madi wouldn’t see it.

No such luck.

Sure enough she veered right in and picked out the doll she wanted me to buy. I told her no, Daddy said we couldn’t buy anything. I told her we could stay for 5 more minutes and then we had to go get a snack and I would need to feed Sean.

Oh my gosh she threw the biggest fit I have ever seen in my life. And why do children feel the need to throw tantrums, big ugly tantrums, in public? Do they purposely want to embarrass us?

So here I am holding hands with a screaming toddler, carrying brother in my carrier and praying no one calls the cops on me thinking that I am stealing an innocent child.

Even after we sat in the snack bar and I offered to buy her a snack to calm her down she was still screaming at me. People were staring at me and giving me dirty looks. I wanted to cry!!!!

After 20 minutes she finally calmed down. But oh my gosh never again. Oh and Target….you really should provide maps for mothers so that we don’t have these kinds of episodes in your stores. LOL!

Where has your child thrown their biggest tantrum?

Tiff

P.S. I so should have taken a picture of Madi during her tantrum but I didn’t think of that at the time. Heeeee!My first time out with 2 kids....alone

Feeling a lot like a cow that’s being milked

Yes, that is the title of this blog post. You see, nursing is a challenge for me. I know that a lot of mom’s say that it is a beautiful bonding experience with your baby. Your body is designed to nourish your child etc, etc. I totally get that. I am in awe of how God designed women to carry his wonderous tiny creations inside our bodies and then provide the nourishment they need to survive.

However, let’s just all be a little honest here and say that it isn’t easy. My little Sean, although adorable, is a pirahna. The first week I thought my breasts were going to fall off because he was literally sucking me to death! (Gentlemen, if there are any reading, this may not be the blog post for you). They looked like they had just been in a bloody battle and lost! And whenever I asked a lactation consultant for help (which by the way they are a great resource if you are really having a hard time with nursing) they would try to make sure he was latching on correctly. Most of the time he was. But he is a strong sucker so whenever he slipped off OUCH!!!!!!! Oh the pain!!!!!!

The second week is going much better. He however doesn’t like the left boob for whatever reason. I have a mind to tell him that he can’t be picky and that he better remember who gave birth to him and who is feeding him. Ha! All in all nursing is mostly a lot of work and it is hard when you have a 3 year old running around desiring your attention. I am hoping that after a couple more weeks we will both get the hang of this and that it won’t seem so tedious. I am sure a lot of new mommas feel this way so I know I am not alone.

But man you really do feel like a cow that is being milked :).

Tiff

I am a slacker

I apologize for not blogging nearly as much lately. I know you all understand as I did literally just give birth less than 2 weeks ago. Life has been an amazing blur of hormones, nursing, diaper changing, toddler hugging and kissing and baby carrying. Not to mention being sleep deprived. This time around I have willingly asked for help when I need it. I amazed at the energy I have had lately. God has produced just the amount I need to get through my day, as well as letting me know when to take a long nap. I am so blessed that my husband noticed how fatigued I looked yesterday. He took the baby from my arms and said “take a nap!” I know not all women have husbands who willingly step in to help so I need to remember to be thankful for his help. He works so hard everyday at church to provide for us. I am a blessed woman!

I have luckily been able to find time in God’s word. The first week was hard! I hardly looked at my bible until last Thursday. I asked for advice from a sweet friend on how she keeps up with her devotions with two little ones. Her advice has proven to be invaluable. Right now while things are a little chaotic I am mostly doing them while Sean is nursing or napping. Oh and thank you Lord for the moby wrap. This has been a lifesaver and it keeps my hands free to play with Madi and do other things.

Plus it helps when the baby refuses to sleep unless he is cuddled up next to me :).

Have a blessed day my friends. This little family is going to try and go to the Farmer’s market tonight for a little fresh air.

TiffI am a slacker